Either from the girls perspective or the boys. Girls-do you usually expect them to pay? Guys-do you pay?
- Yes the boy pays59%(283)58%(488)Vote56%(205)
- No the boy doesn't41%(197)42%(355)Vote44%(158)
Either from the girls perspective or the boys. Girls-do you usually expect them to pay? Guys-do you pay?
Of course girls are gonna want the guy to pay, free food, who's gonna say no to that.
A good girl would offer to pay for her part, so as a guy, you know when you've chosen a good one, when you see her offer to pay at least half.
Going Dutch is best
When you are young, and just dating, he should ask you out, and open doors, and hold your hand, getting out of the car, and adjust the chair, as you sit, and should pay for the date.
THAT DOES NOT ENTITLE HIM TO A KISS, OR SEX, IN ANY WAY!!
He should be a proper gentleman, and respect her, as a lady.
OK, that was my time, and that was the Right Way, and I liked it, and it worked.
What you kids do now, I haven't a clue, but I think that women should be respected, and treated well, like ladies, and I will always do that, and believe that!
In a perfect world where girls asked out guys just as often as guys asked out girls, then I would say that whoever proposed the date should be the one to pay. Then it would be up to the other person to propose a second date and pay for it that time.
But since its 2016 and most girls STILL refuse to ask guys out, us guys have to do all the initiating. It wouldn't be fair for us to have to pay all of the time, just because we have no other option. So I think in this case, it'd only be fair to split the bill.
That's really fucked up how girls think that guys should pay LOL. It's not like male teenagers make more money than female teenagers. It's their parents' money, so why the fuck should men pay for everything? And yet, you want equal treatment for women. Talk about mixed messages. Is it that you want equal rights and treatment for women or just more privileges for women?
Teenagers are indoctrinated to have such sexist expectations, so the guys will want to pay, and the girls will expect it because "it's the man's job, because their penis gives them money" or something.
A man who assumes he must pay is spineless and weak, he has no respect for him self.
A woman who assumes a man must pay is entitled and sexist, she has no respect for the men she dates.
Always. Men and women are most attracted to each other when the man provides, regardless of whether or not she needs provided for. If he doesn't have much money then do things on a date that require little or no money, but whatever you do do the guy should pay. Paying separately is what you do when you're not trying to create feeling of attraction.
It's the generation of equality. If you like him then show sincerity that you are equally interested in spending time with him and share the costs or else it becomes a situation where he is 'buying your time' which in the end demeans him.
Nope and it was never taken well. It's why most of the dates where free ones like a picnic at the park or something that didn't mean me paying.
The majority of women still seem to think men should pay but also appreciate effort more then money so I always go for the latter.
I highly dislike the convention that men pay. We get nothing out of this and the days we should do anything because we are "men" has passed.
I usually pay for the first 3 dates. But then again I plan the first 3. I then wait for her to plan the 4th date. If she doesn't, I'm not interested because it kinda shows me she is selfish or unwilling to chip in financially to the relationship.
p. s. The guy saying its a privilege to spend time with her is a loser! Basically saying, you are not worth anything compared to her.
When I was a teenager, the boy ALWAYS paid. I still ALWAYS pay.
The number one complaint I hear from younger women about dating younger guys is that they expect her to pay. That isn't right. The guy should pay if he asks her out (there is some leeway if she asks him out).
If you want to be a sad, whipped individual, then yeah, the guy should pay. But i honestly find this question very stupid. It should be 50/50. I can say this too. If i did pay for every date, then i get sex afterwards right? Sounds bad right? But its the same thing. Dont expect us to pay for your entertainment when it isn't being repaid.
I expect the parents to actually pay for it.
As teen I kinda feel we dont really earn much. Still if you invite your girl out on a date I feel it would be great if you pay, but only with your own earned money. Using your parents money sounds very cringy to me for some reason. Also I guess I would like that if I catered to her once the next time she catered to me. aren't relationships give and take?
Ahhh, there we have it.
Right in the teen years the instinctual hypergamy starts right there.
Where not even considering dates, that both parties can agree to date in teen-style as in low or no budged without wasting resources.
True love is almost extinct. Money rules over the bodies.
The poll results just proves it some more.
And now my personal opinion:
The boy is NOT obligated to pay for any dates UNLESS both parties agreed upon it. That's just my opinion.
Once in a while, I might treat my lady to something nice and I'd pay for it. It helps show that I care for her.
But being EXPECTED to pay simply because I'm the guy makes no sense. Why should I have to simply because I'm the guy?
Expecting either gender to pay for more than their share is wrong, really. If a guy expected the girl to pay for both of them, that's just lazy. I'd expect her to pay for her expenses while I pay for mine. Is that not so reasonable?
Whomever did the asking should pay for the first date. But by date 2-3 if you make it that far you should either split it or take turns paying for the other person
It depends who asked who to go on the date.
If i asked a girl on the date of course i'd pay, but if she asked me i would expect her to pay and i would still offer to pitch a little in. Or just leave the tip for the server
And If we have the funds to pay. Like if she had no money but she wanted to go on a date and i liked her enough to want to take her out i'd pay in that situation
I like to pay whenever I'm with a girl
I always pay :P
I'd say you guy has the option to pay or not depending on how he feels about the girl and the situation that led to the date. If he's trying to win her over and that then paying for the date might help. Although thats's not always the case so the girl shouldn't just expect him to pay that's a little unfair as well.
When I was a teen I didn't have any money or rich parents to give me money, so it should be whoever can afford it. If the teen girl I'm dating has rich/nice parents giving her money then she should be paying, cause teens don't have jobs.
Pay for what you buy, for fuck's sake.
Split the bill 'foo
Men pay for dates... Waitresses get tipped more often than waiters. I think men should just avoid restaurants altogether :P
it shouldn't have anything to do with the gender
Half and half. Always
I've always paid the first few dates and if she doesn't offer then im done.
Wttfff the results are disgusting. You shouldn't expect the guy to pay, at least go dutch. If the guy is willing to pay then okay thank them and move on. But guys shouldn't be EXPECTED to pay. You pay. Give a little.
Though it's an incredibly sweet gesture for the boy to pay, I personally wouldn't mind paying for him and myself. I don't mind who pays as long as we have a nice time. :)
If he was continuously paying for everything though, I'd feel bad and want to pay for things too. :(
Okay I really don't get why some girls expect the male to pay. If I asked him on the date I'll pay for the food or we'll each pay for our own food but I'm not going to be like "hey your they guy so you have to pay" it's an incredibly stupid thing to expect
I'd expect to go dutch
Whoever asked should pay. Or you two can spilt. I would never expect the guy to pay for everything. That's gonna get hella expensive for him.
If he invited me he pays, if I invited I pay. In any other case everyone pays for what they're having.
Never did accept that or expect it.
wow these polls are crazy. what is that. teenagers dont even have money and if they do its from the same crap jobs. why should one pay for the other. would not like that. it feels infantalizing.
I never did, no.
I'd say each pays their own. You or him might want to pay, but it's always best not to take it for granted, to have money of you and be wary how much you order
i just think it's rude if the guy doesn't pay for the date.
it's not about free food.
it's not about using people.
it's not about who should spend more in the relationship.
if i'm dating him i constantly buy gifts, snacks, ingredients to cook special meals for him because i WANT to.
paying for the weekly date (which is not even that expensive in most cases) is just manners.
I voted yes because there was no both option. I think switching off is always healthy
Never dated as a teenager but when I was a little kid and imagined going on dates I thought he would. Then once I was that old and was making my own money I felt weird when people would pay for me.
When I was a teen we always used to go Dutch cause all teens are skint. But now I let guys pay for me if they want to. Just depends on the person.
Tbh, on a first date, I would probably pay my own because it's awkward. Second date, if he insists again then okay. If my meal is more expensive than his i'll pay/chip in.
Honestly yea I would but I would only really expect it if it was our first date. If we had been dating a while I wouldn't expect it. I mean, we're both teenagers so Ik that he wouldn't have a huge wad of cash or anything which is why even though I'm kinda traditional and I feel like the guy should pay, I wouldn't by any means expect him to pay every time.
No, I didn't and wouldn't expect that. I'd rather split the bill.
I would hope that we would either split it or go on a date that requires no money at all.
I feel bad whenever someone has to spend their money on me, so I usually don't ask for a lot. However, on dates, I think it's very sweet when a boy refuses to let me pay. I would always bring my own money on dates, just in case of course. I find it very chivalrous when a guy pays.
if guys have a problem paying, just take her somewhere less expensive. I know I don't need to go to a fancy restaurant. its more about spending time with the person. I wouldn't care if he took me to get a slice of pizza!
it depends how old you are. if you're like 13 so you both ask your parents for money, then yeah i think you should pay separately but if you're like 17 and have jobs, he doesn't HAVE to pay but if he does, he's a good one.
I feel like who ever asked for the date should pay. For example in high school I asked a guy to see a movie with me a payed for everything because it was my idea.
I would never expect a guy to pay I always bring enough to pay for myself and usually I insist on paying for myself but the guy usually pays anyways.
I always paid for my shit, though the guys never let me. Why should his be any different?
Yes, especially the first date if he asks you out.
If I asked him out then I would pay, but if he offers to pay then I would let him pay.
Also, if you are going on a date ALWAYS BRING YOUR VEX MONEY just in case something goes wrong and both of you get into an argument.
I'm not a teenager but most teenagers I know are super broke, so everyone should pay for their own stuff.
I say he pays for the first date cos guys can be flaky and enjoy wasting my time. But after the first date it's 50:50 and I'm more than happy to treat him...
The one who asks the other out should pay.
Really if I wanted to pay for my dates mea