Just a general question, I'm not really looking to date right now.
So yeah, I talk quite a lot. Not the boring, run-of-the-mill-stuff, because I can keep a conversation going with witty and interesting topics. But I have noticed people tend to get annoyed sometimes because they feel I talk too much, and go into too much detail. I do agree, but the reason I do this, is to ensure that there is no ambiguity by 'shortening' what I say. I struggle to convey things 'in short', and unless I do go into detail, I risk the other person misunderstanding what I say. Not just this, I am known to keep the atmosphere lively with the way I talk as well.
This doesn't happen too often, but sometimes I fail to realise that I should probably cut down on the chatter when the other person is busy, or otherwise in some kind of stress. And I really do NOT want to annoy anyone. I have been told that the stuff I talk about is usually relevant and intellectual, or at the very least, humorous.
So tell me, is it a deal-breaker for women if the man seems to talk too much? I don't know, I'm a bit paranoid about this. When I do decide to get back into the dating scene (after having sorted out my life and career), I do not want my chatty nature to turn women away from me.
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It simply all depends on what he is talking about. If its all about himself and your not even on such a topic, its a sign he's all about himself. If its constant praise about her, he may be putting her on a pedestal. If ends up with conflicting interest, then it should change to a shared interest topic. More and importantly just be more concern about how comfortable your date is and not what others say, as not everybody is the same way.
It's not the amount of talking that matters to me, it's whether he is interested in also hearing me talk and getting to know me. I love it when a guy is not shy and able to keep a conversation flowing when we first started dating, and it he talks a lot that's totally fine as long as he's not being self absorbed and making me feel like he isn't interested in what I have to say or asking me questions about myself.
No offense, but I have seen your posts and I feel like Gag has really warped your view about the dating scene. I promise, dating beyond 22 is a lot different than what people on here make it seem like. Older young folks aren't so bent on "turn offs." They look for compatibility, stability, and attraction in a more balanced way. It's always a plus to be a nice conversationalist. Just be yourself for this one. If friends say you talk too much, then practice being a listener a little more and you should be good.
It's a turn off if he can't keep a conversation going. Everyone likes a good conversation and it's good to be detailed, especially when they don't know you yet. From how you described it, everything sounds fine. Just make sure you don't talk about yourself too much. That's... oppressive. I literally have to run away to get some air everytime that happens. Anyway, if someone is busy, chances are they'll just let you know xD
It depends on the topic and how much I'm interested. I don't mind intelligent conversation but I expect to be romanced at some point if that's what we're going for. If they miss the signals that I'm ready, it can be frustrating. Sometimes you just gotta know when to shut up and kiss her.
If it's not the boring run-off mill type of conversation and it's actually insightful, intellectual, and interesting then yes it'd be a turn on for me. Because it shows how open and comfortable the guy is with you. When you try to talk to most guys, they'll usually just keep it brief.
Chatty is alright as long as they know when it's time to stop talking. Like I'm always up for a good convo but if I'm busy or just not in the mood then chatty people can get super annoying if they can't take a hint and stop talking.