Love to hear some positive and successful stories.
Most Helpful Guy
When I was really really young, I would chase. Then, sometime in high school, I stopped chasing. Then, some guy had a conversation with me about how girls need the self-esteem boost, and "Men love the chase" is just the excuse girls feed themselves to justify the fact that "Women relish the feeling of being wanted and chased after." So, "chasing" was something you sort of did, not because you wanted to, but because it was something the girl needed emotionally. Then, after following that advice for a bit, I realized that the girls who "needed" that were not girls where you could have a sustainable relationship with. One of them turned out to be a pot-head (not the worst thing in the world), one had BPD, one was anorexic, one was a radical third-wave feminist who hated men but loved penis but hated that she loved penis, and one was bipolar.
I mean, nobody is perfect, but I started to notice the trend. Girls who needed to be chased fell into a certain category of psychological issues, and that category was issues that I couldn't deal with after 2-3 months.
After that point, all I would basically do is introduce myself and let her introduce herself. Behind most good-looking girls, there's actually not that much substance. I mean, there is. There is if you want to get laid. But, there isn't really. That's who I am in society, now your turn. "I'm studying to be a special education... speech pathologist... and I'm like 25 and still in school... and will make $45k for the rest of my life... but I dress like this, so you can read between the lines." Make an emotional connection, listen out for her "needs" and what she's been missing and longing for in life (from a man), and then "ask the right questions" to show her (indirectly) that I get it and "maybe" I'm that guy. From there on, anything that happens next is HER CALL. SHE is 100% accountable and responsible for any decision she makes after that.
As far as a story, I guess how my wife and I started dating. I asked her to go out with me (3) times. The first two times, she said, "No! You already have a girlfriend!" By the third time, I had formally broken things off with the other girl I was seeing, so at that point my wife and I started dating.1
Most Helpful Girl
Well I'm not sure if my case is considered chasing and I'm not sure if I'm successful yet. Since we haven't met up yet.
I met this guy on a dating app, we had immediate chemistry. But he has lost faith that he will find someone special and is insecure about himself plus he has tons of baggage. Our personalities are similar and we think a like. He has sent out feelers and tested waters about meeting and I gave him a positive response. I know he is kinda interested but he doesn't know what he wants yet.
We chatted non stop the first week and the conversation was drop, flirty and fun. he was distant the 2nd week but I kept on sending him messages on FB and liked his stuff on both FB and Instagram, we chatted for a but but the flirty fun was gone. 3rd week I kinda gave up therefore no contact. 4th week I noticed him liking my FB posts so I sent out feelers by posting stuff on FB and restricting to only him seeing it. He liked a whole bunch of the stuff I posted and he listened to clips of me singing that I posted.
I just got a job after being unemployed for a while so I took a chance, sent him a message asking him if he would help me celebrate. The response was positive and we are meeting up this week. We chatted today from 2:30-3pm then he messaged me again and we chatted from 5-10pm.2