Me and my boyfriend have been together a little over 3 years. When we first met we both agreed that we were not into smoking weed. We both felt this way up until the past 5-6 months ago. During that time his grandma passed away and with all the stress going on he decided he wanted a break. During that break he openly started smoking weed to cope with his feelings and stress. I tried to be understanding since he was very close to his grandma and we were technically single. However since we got back together I reminded him how I felt about smoking weed. I have smoked it in the past before I met him, but I just feel like for me it isn't something I need or want in my life and I would like a significant other that felt the same way, and when I met him I was led to believe he felt that way too.
So recently it appears as if he has been smoking but he won't even admit it to me. Like I know the flavor since I have smoked it and I can smell and taste it on his breath. And his eyes will be super red and glossy and he just looks stoned. But when I try to ask him about it he gets mad that I'm "Always accusing him" of smoking. It makes me feel like I'm going crazy because I'm 99% sure I'm right but he won't admit it.
So I honestly don't know what to do. If he had smoked weed before I probably wouldn't have been interested in him and I wouldn't expect someone to change a huge lifestyle choice of theirs but this is something we both had agreed on. I mean right before his grandma passed away he even went off about not wanting to be friends with someone because they smoked weed a lot and he couldn't stand people like that. I'm not anywhere near that extreme, it's just not something I want in my relationship.
What are your suggestions?
Most Helpful Guy
His excuses for using is bullshit. He's always been a pothead and that's all he'll ever be. You can't trust him so you have a decision0
Most Helpful Girl
He's grieving. So leave him be0