I'm in 20, still in college and in the city. recently I've been dating a man in his early 30's. it's a completely normal relationship so far, fun dates, hanging out, getting to know each other etc. I think its been going really well, and I like him, although I am guarded with my emotions for obvious reasons.. he's older. but is it wrong to be dating him? is that taboo? people don't normally look at us funny, or even seem to notice that we are in different decades, and i feel comfortable but I refuse to tell my friends in fear of being judged.. I don't know.
Well my parents 8 years apart and they have been happily married. My dad was sort of insecure when he was younger dating my mom from my assumptions of what they've told me but not a train wreck by any means. Just a lot of family issues that he had growing up. I don't think it would automatically deem a guy as being insecure but the consideration you need to take in is why. I think a lot of guys will date younger because they are naive and can't see past their bullshit as easily. So if you date older I think it would be in your best interest to keep your eyes peeled within the relationship.
I was 20 dating a 17 year old at one point. People gave me heat for that but I didn't do it out of sinecruity. I did it because I genuinely liked her and we got along perfectly.
I personally think I'll marry younger because i'm more attracted to younger women. I like the age difference because life experience is masculine and I like my partner to look up to me and value my life experience as a man and be someone that she can trust and go to. An older woman that might conflict with that dynamic. Plus it seems that older women that are single tend to be bitter as fuck and an increasingly amount of them are becoming cringe feminist lmfao.
First, are the girls your age who are jealous because your boyfriend probably has resources their boyfriends don't. He doesn't demand you pay for half the date and he may even provide you a lifestyle their boyfriend's can't afford.
Older women his age think they deserve him, not you. They don't like that you can steal a good catch from them. They don't think it is fair.
If older men are judgmental, it is only because they wish they were dating you too.
If younger men are judgmental, it is because they are insecure with themselves and are jealous that the older guy can provide for you, when they cannot.
It isn't anyone's business besides the two of you. Date whom you like.
I don't think it's weird, I know a lot of girls that date guys 10 years older than them. A few younger girls (ie maybe your friends) might think it's a little weird since they may be still in the grade school/college mentality where you have to date someone in your grade/within a few years of age. In the 'real-world' however, such gaps are not uncommon and in a lot of ways pretty logical. Older guys are more successful, cooler, etc. And they make it a little hard for younger guys like me to compete if I'm honest...
"lol i have dated no actresses and neither have you my friend, unless you count the local shool drama as actors/and actresses. wow, i actually tought you were better than this. you are not even close to as mature as i am. making up stories of turning down actresses, and thinking you are mature if you dont even know the reason why the modelling industry is a red flag. what are you gonna fo next? block me? i have wasted my time here, thinking this would be interesting."
Something may well be since you felt compelled to create this question... it's pretty common but sometimes there are underlying reasons... looking for a father figure... cash and prizes... but what's wrong with the guys your own age?
I know us older guys rock.. I mean look at me... I'm just damn sexy... now where was I... oh yes, so do you got Daddy issues?
Would be strange if the age gap (> 15) maybe. But, what's important is that you can understand each other, and you don't feel the age gap, like different way of thinking different attitude... etc. If you're in a match then nothing is wrong with that.