am I the only girl here who feels like I'm being degraded a little when guys say or say they want to do certain things and they are the ones in 'control' in the scenario? I mean, I am an independent woman and sometimes it's just too much for me. ?
The problem is some women like it and expect it, others completely don't. Guys have been told both and don't know how to act. Be dominant, take the lead, be decisive, but at the same time listen to everything she wants and don't pressure her. It's tough to win.
And just because you *feel* like you're being degraded doesn't mean that they see it like that or had that intention at all. If you want something and you're independent like you say, then make your position on the matter known. Be mindful that he's trying to navigate the situation as well.
well i like taking the submissive role in bed it turns me on when a man knows how to take control (just in bed though. im not a super controlling person but i do make most of the decisions when im in a relationship and tend to be with submissive guys, which makes it even more attractive when such a submissive guy turns dominant in bed) but just like another girl said, its all about respect. of course if you (not directly implying you, just saying in general) have sex with some random guy who barely respects you, it would feel degrading to basically be used as his sex toy since he'd just be ordering you around and making you feel used, but if you're with someone who's serious about you and clearly respects you and stays in your comfort zone (like if you say you dont like your hair pulled, even though he's dominating you at the moment, he will listen and stop doing it because he actually cares about you and doesn't want to hurt you) then it shouldn't be a problem. but not every woman likes the submissive role in bed, maybe you're more dominant and thats cool too, there are plenty of submissive guys.
It's all about finding the right guy. You like to do things on your own, you don't like the idea of spending the rest of your life as a stay at home mom or something. Its just that image that bothers you right? Like you don't have a say? When he decides where you are going to eat tonight, he stops feeling like your boyfriend and now he feels more like your man and that makes you uncomfortable.
I bet you don't even feel that good about the way I worded my answer. It's not abnormal and I'm glad you said it.
Ones who say that reallt are prolly just creepy virgins trying to sound hot and failing epicly lmao id just do it and if chick doesn't like, she can get out of bed and walk all the way home cos I ain't calling uber or driving her lmao
It's not a one person is in control thing, it is a two person fun zone. If they don't like that there are other guys who do. Seriously tho, it is supposed to be fun for EVERYBODY involved, and it is fun, so make sure to enjoy living your life.
Being degraded in a sexual situation can be a turn on to a lot people, myself included. Im extremely independent, but I want to be sexually dominated, its a real turn on, but there is nothing wrong with how you feel! Sex should make you feel comfortable, and if you're not comfortable with that then do the things that you are comfortable with
Nothing wrong with that. Personally, i'm submissive and like being dominated. Doesn't change the fact I am an independent woman and i'd only do that with someone that I trust and respect and who respects me. However, it's reasonable for you to do what you want and not do what you don't want so don't sweat it.