Okay, perhaps I shouldn't feel this way from just a few anecdotes about online dating, but I have a couple of girlfriends who have tried it and a lot of guys just expect the girl to come to them and put out. The girls say in their profile that they are looking for someone with boyfriend qualities, not just looking to hook up. The men respond, but they don't ask them to meet somewhere for coffee or a meal. On the first texting exchange they are like, "So what are you doing tonight? Can I come over and give you a massage?" or "Send me a picture of your body. I want to know how your body is.." and then "Can you come over tonight to my place (a two hour drive)?" These are paid dating sites too. They talk to the women like they're escorts or something. My boyfriend took me out for coffee and then dinner and courted me for a couple of months before we became a couple. Is this rare? Is old fashioned courtship and romance dead?
Most Helpful Guy
I've tried the courting and romance thing with several girls through online dating and it wasn't worth it.
A GaG user named, Breatheme19, wasted my time and energy and refused to meet me in-person.
I found out she cheated on me the entire time I courted her.
It was from October 2015 to December 2015.
She gave me all her nudes and she begged me for pics of my dick and ejaculate.
Before Breatheme19, I had sex with four swindlers pretending to be prostitutes in August 2015. I realized paying for sex wasn't for me since I got scammed every time. They were so stingy with the sex. When I compared it to everyone else's experiences I definitely got shortchanged. I got to fuck for only 2 minutes each time for $130 and I only got to ejaculate once. Anyone else who paid that much would get to fuck for at least an hour and ejaculate multiple times within that hour.
I still want to have sex with girls, but I refuse to struggle more than other guys and get shortchanged by girls every time.
After Breatheme19 dumped me, on January 2016, I got scammed by a girl from Thailand on okcupid. com and extorted by a girl through Skype from xxxblackbook. com.
I kind of completely gave up on girls after that.
It's dumb because I never fucked over any girls like that. I'm too introverted to meet girls through clubbing, parties, or other social events.
I'm quite petrified of conversing with girls in general.
People give advice on the web. People give advice on this site. But none of this advice works for me. I don't know what to do. I guess I'm going to die without experiencing true love and good sex at this rate.
Based on my past experiences, I think it would be best if I gave up on girls completely.
I don't think I can ever stop liking girls, but every time I tried interacting with them sexually, they just keep making my life worse than before.
I'm jealous of all my friends, they are either married or have multiple girlfriends. I'm the only one left out. They met their girlfriends in high school. They met their soulmates before getting a job.
Everyone is so far ahead of me now financially and sexually.
I never got a job. I don't think I even want one. What's the point? I never had a girlfriend. I never met my soulmate. I don't think I even have soulmate.
I hate obsessing over this, I kind of wish I was a drone without any thoughts or feelings sometimes.
Where can I find nice girls who are receptive to my existence? I just want a break.1
Most Helpful Girl
romance and chivalry definitely aren't dead; there are great guys out there, even in online dating.
i met my boyfriend online~ he messaged me first, and here's what he said (yes, i saved our entire chat log):
"We have a few things in common, I love writing as well (sounds geeky but I used to write my own graphic novel a few years ago) I also love drawing & painting. I know exactly how you feel about call centres believe me. You seem really smart, witty and really cute, I'd really like a chance to chat with you :)"
1) he wrote properly and didn't abuse the English language;
2) he mentioned things we had in common~ this shows that he took the time to read my profile and was interested in me as a person;
3) his tone came across as intelligent, charming, and witty, plus he was passionate about his hobbies: all traits i value in my partners.
4) no dick pics or solicitations.
we clicked from the start, and talked for a month before finally meeting in person. a two-hour coffee date quickly turned into an adventure all over town, and we've been inseparable ever since.
that said, romantic gestures need not be dramatic or showy. to me, it's him cooking me supper, driving me to school after a 12-hour shift, or putting movies on a flash drive for me to watch when i couldn't get out of bed post-op... i'm not much for traditional "courting" but, as long as there are people like us in the world, romance will never die.0