During our first couple of weeks of going out, my girlfriend gave me a rather cheap-looking lover charm necklace. And I loved it! I used to wear it all the time, and so would she. She loved the concept of having matching jewelry and do did I! But one day, like the idiot I am, I lost my half of the necklace. I was devastated... after I told her about it, she stoped wearing her half of the necklace ( which is understandable).
Fast forward to 4 months later, I decided to buy a rather similar looking love charm ( with initials, was that a bad idea?). I felt terrible about losing the original, and I thought this would make up for it. When I gave her her half of the necklace, she wasn't excited at all. Two weeks have passed, she only wore it once, the day I gave it to her, and never again, while I wear my half all the time like I used to with the original.
Was it a bad idea to try to replace a love charm? Or maybe our relationship is just not the same? We had our ups and downs... should I ask her about it? What do you guys think?
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In general, I don't think it's a good idea to try to replace unique items that have sentimental value.
I understand the feeling behind yr gesture -- and I think it's a sweet gesture -- but, emotionally, there's always going to be some kind of understanding that this is just a "replacement", and not the original article. If that makes sense.
It's *possible* that there have been changes in the way yr girl sees the relationship in general, but of course that's impossible to say without knowing a LOT more about the situation.
If I were you, I'd try to think of a brand-new idea for a gift. If you like the idea of "matching" things, then you can try to think of something else along those lines -- or you can just get her something special. Up to you. (Also, you should NOT mention the old necklaces -- again, you don't want the new gift to seem like it's a "replacement" for the old one.)
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