I'm 17 and I've finally started becoming the best me possible (understanding my fears, overcoming anxiety...). Now I wanna focus on making myself more attractive to the opposite sex, (something I've NEVER been, quite the opposite :-( ). I'm kinda short, skinny, and I have VERY thin arms and legs and where glasses so I'm kinda considered a nerd, (I wonder why :-) ) anyways my preferred hair style is a ponytail, basically my appearance is not really something that stands out. BUT I am very wise and I know a lot about healthy relationships, emotions, and yes sex... disregard that.. So how do I show the girls what I have to offer if I don't stand out like other boys do. And yes I'm happy with my appearance and I honestly don't think exercising and getting muscles is gonna work for me. I'm already an ectomorph :-) and my mom is short and all the men on his side of the family are short :-)
Most Helpful Girl
Be Confident! Show girls that you are smart and you have plans for yourself in the future. Never ever treat girls badly, i. e. cheat, take advantage of and so on, because it WILL get around. Try your best to impress girls with what you've got, don't try to be someone you're not, because it won't end well. Find things that you love about yourself and sooner or later someone is bound to love those aspects of you too! Happy hunting OP 😉0
Most Helpful Guy
I still recommend working out a bit. You might just be able to "fill out your frame" a bit better.
Either way it can help if you find a style of clothing that complements your physique, whatever it is. Try to cultivate an appealing social image (don't broadcast the "nerd" side of you).
Attraction is still often more instinctive than cerebral, based on millions of years of evolutionary behavior. Even if humans can overcome their instinctive behaviors, we can't quite erase millions of years of evolution. It can go beyond looks for men (and women) but they do still play a strong role.
For men it really helps if you can be "confident". That's not quite the same as "bold" or "daring". It's kind of not wanting a girl so badly. She's lucky to have your attention just as much as you are lucky to have hers. Treat her like an equal, not something to be worshiped.
And ask girls out sooner. Don't fixate. Don't fall in love from a distance. Get a girl you kind of like, think she's pretty, think you might like her more if you get to know her more, and ask her out right then and there. Try to bond together more on the date instead of building a one-sided interest in a girl.
Your intellect can be a good relationship quality but it's not what helps you get your foot through the door. It's an endearing quality, but what you should focus on primarily is sex and social appeal.1