She... -is caring -is affectionate -is selfless -is playful -is feminine but is not high maintenance and can participate in activities for guys (like sports, video games, etc.) -is short (she is 5'3") -loves to make other people happy -loves hugs and cuddling -is told that she's pretty and cute by other people -is shy at first but also knows how to have fun
But then she may be a little clingy because she wants to spend as much time with you when she finds out that you love her and that she loves you. But she would understand she's too clingy if you talk to her nicely about the problem and she'll try to accommodate if she can.
Also she's 17, and she's single and has never had a serious relationship before but totally is looking forward to having one!!
Guys, what do you think? Would you want a girl like this to be your girlfriend?
yes, thats my dream girl, i would love and cherish a girl with a personality like that, and being clingy is never a problem, because to me that means she actually wants/loves me, and wants a committed serious relationship which i want in a girlfriend and future wife. plus sexual desire of course, love and sex has to be equal cause its equally important to me.
Sounds like a bit like a people-pleasing doormat. And any degree of clingy is horrible for me. She sounds co-dependent -- tell her to go to CODA groups (Co-dependency anonymous, 12 step groups). It's a shame thing -- she was overly shamed as a child -- she needs reparenting with emotionally mature adults -- she should spend time with warm and friendly people who don't molly-coddle her. I hope she don't see what's meant to be 'tough love' as hate !! But maybe she can bypass all this therapy nonsense. What does she want from a man that he might realistically be able and willing to give, if not give gladly? And what does she have to offer in return that the kind of man in question might really love? In business, we ask,, what's in a marriage for you? (what's in it for me?) and what's in a marriage for him? (what's in it for him?). HOW will you make him happy? What will he have to DO to support you in your happiness? Are other factors like money important? Would you marry a poor man is he was right for you and your joint happiness? Would you marry a rich man if he was okay, but not perfect? I suggest you have fun discussing my questions with your friends. This will be much more useful and fun than therapy -- lol !! Good luck !!
It seems like she's really all about... other people. Which is nice and all, but I've personally noticed the kind of girls who are clingy, constantly trying to please and appeal to others tend to have deep rooted self esteem issues and need constant reassurance of their own worth from others instead of finding it from within themselves.