So I told my boyfriend that its ok if he wants to fuck other girls sometimes simply because I don't want him to feel too tied down to the relationship, its fine and stuff but when he comes and tells me about it I can't help but get a little upset, am I being super jealous or what?
You and your boyfriend have to take the time to establish the boundaries of the relationship, especially because being in an open relationship isn't exactly conventional. I wouldn't really call it being jealous because most jealous people aren't willing to let their partner sleep around.
Honestly I don't think you are -really- ok with your boyfriend fucking other women, and you probably should disallow that in your relationship going forward. You have to do what is right for YOU, and obviously you don't feel comfortable with this.
Question, is he allowing you to sleep around with other men?
it depends~ consensual nonmonogamy (whether polyamorous or "open" relationships) can only work if both of you are into it, and you're obviously not into it.
a lot of people who are consensually nonmonogamous have relationship rules~ for example, some are okay with their primary partner seeing other people, but they have an agreement not to talk about it afterward. but have you told him how you feel?
he only keeps doing it because you keep allowing it. so you need to 1) end the relationship, or 2) tell him you're not okay with it and take it from there.
Wait what really, you allowed that? Wow, um since you gave him the okay to have sex with other women then why are you complaining about him telling you. Neither of you are taking the relationship seriously. A relationship is about commitment, if he feels tied down then he's not the right man for you and visa versa. You asking this is baffling. What are you looking to get out of this relationship?
Well personally I would never let someone who I call a boyfriend to fuck other girls, after all I like to be in a monogamous relationship.. so if you two have it both ways and you can do whatever you want then no however if you know deep down you want him to be with you and only you I would tell him that. Letting him fuck other girls isn't being lenient its just not tolerate if you two decided to be in a monogamous relationship.
I feel like you're not actually okay with it.. I'm honestly surprised that you said it was okay in the first place. If you really do want to continue that way, then tell him you're okay with it, but you don't really want to hear about it. Though if I were you, I would just say that you actually want to be exclusive.