These are *my* reasons. I cannot and do not speak for anyone else.
Know how to react and handle a woman when she's upset.
More patient and understanding - I've got a bit of a temper, sometimes
They've been working on their bodies for years, so they understand that my routine and diet is not to be f**ked with.
Already 'played the field' and tasted the rainbow (lmao).
Ready to commit and settle down; not just to hit it and quit it.
Financially responsible and stable (or starting to be). As well as overall responsible
They still act like kids, but know when it's time to be serious
Less likely to run away from a fight/argument. - They'll sit down and talk it out * * Hot as hell when a man does that.
Usually more thoughtful and caring - Had one offer to drive 45+ min to bring me soup when I was sick. Same man would pick me up coffee (remembered it after I told him ONCE) on days I didn't get enough sleep.
Egos aren't as fragile as younger men (DOES NOT apply to *all* younger men).
Last one (though there's plenty more) is that they're sexually experienced. They know where they stand on sex. Their limits, what they like, etc.
Females are taught that guys their own age lack maturity and stability, so a lot of them go on thinking they're actually mature enough and stable enough to date an older man, when they're usually no more mature than the young guys they have a problem with. It's about novelty for women more than anything I think. Yet what's funny is that they will be offended when a guy likes older women or try to write him off as just wanting sex with an "experienced" woman.
Younger women don't impress me by wanting older men, myself included.
It's been a long time since I've dated an older guy. But the times I did, it was typically because the guys my age were really just sort of a mess. Lol.
A lot of them weren't all that confident, they had no direction, no real thought provoking opinions, etc. So there was a short period that I went for guys who were older than me, since I found they had everything that the younger gents lacked.
For me I'm open when it comes to who I date age wise. Assuming we get on, I'll go no more than a year or two younger, the same age as me, or about 6+ years older. There could potentially be exceptions though.
I have no idea, I tend to work better with dudes that are younger. XD
My current boyfriend is 22, so there is a 2 year gap between us. Though majority of the time I keep forgetting he's younger because he doesn't act younger. So honestly he acts more mature than most older men women tend to see. Sure they would have more experience but why would I want a guy who's already experienced everything? That's boring as hell and not as much fun compared to being with someone that at least at times has no idea what he's doing but just bullshits until it works. XD
So chicks that say only older men are mature and all of that. It's total bullshit since it doesn't matter your age because 20 year old can be more mature than some 40 year old.
I really don't know. I won't date a guy more than four years older than me. I always get creeped out by older guys hitting on me. Some guy from my math class was 26 and him hitting on me, seriously grossed me out.
They tend to be more mature and stable/comfortable in life, meaning less insecurities & drama going on. That's really already all there is to it. I don't rule out guys my age or slightly younger just for their age right away either, though.
Before my husband there was a huge she gap which I don't reccomend. If I were looking to date? No more than five years and not younger than me. My husband is 23 and I'm 19. I know everyone talks about maturity but it's true. I honestly don't think many 19 year olds would fit my standards with how they act and think. I know how my guy was at 19 and it was pretty gross. He's grown a lot in the last few years. It sounds stupid but I wanted a man, not a teenager. When I looked at him I wanted to see daddy dom I guess not a peer. I think a lot of younger women look for stability and an older guy who's kinda got his stuff together by then is appealing.
I haven't understood this concept either. And I come from a family where on my father's side every relationship between a man and a woman has an age gap of at least 8 years (and the man is always the older one). What can I say? The men on my father's side (and dad too) are good at picking up women. 😂 My current boyfriend (and the only one I have had so far) is one and a half year older than me. I would rather stick with guys only a few years older (from 1 to 3 years) than me.
They're more interesting and they know what to talk about, they have things to say besides their muscles. They're experienced in life and much more intellectual than guys my age. Guys my age only want to bang the next girl they seein sight.
I don't date but if I was going to date someone it would be older. He or she can't be more than 6 or 7 years older than me. I don't know I've never really thought about dating anyone younger than me. The only person I dated who was younger than me was a guy in high school and he was 15 and I was 16.
You of all people asking this? lol Generally speaking, girls mature faster than guys. I've always dated guys ~5 years older just because they're more likely to want a relationship and be serious. Most guys our age are just looking for a lay.
Just the calmness and stability more than anything i think. They're just finding their own feet in the big bad world which is a scary thing and they know we'll be there for them if they need it. We generally take their freak outs and emotional swings in our stride rather than returning it with anger or ignoring it
Of course there's always the financial safety net too lol. A 30 year old with his own place can almost let the 21 year old graduate pursue her career/ambitions without fear of paying bills and putting food on the table. Despite what girls say to the contrary that is a BIG plus.
I guess they view them as more financially stable and mature. Also girls complain that guys their age just want to sleep around so maybe they think the older guys are more likely to be looking for something serious.
Year 1 Meet savage fucboys that play em like g. o. a. t qb Brady Year 2 Desided to turn lesbian cos savage fucboy were too savage and they feel guilty Year 3 their frustrated vag give up and then decide to hook up with older guys cos they looking for more lmao
I've always found it interesting that girls will want to date a guy that's older than them because they are more mature and claim that guys their own age are less mature than themselves, yet, one of the reasons why they like older men is because they know how to handle their immature attitudes. Which has less to do with the guy being more mature than it does him just being more experienced.
There's this one girl that I fooled around with before she knew my age and I was looking to start a relationship with her, but when she found out that I am 4 years younger than she is. . . she all of a sudden doesn't want to be with me in anyway and has told me a few times that she hates that she is like that, but she can't help but let it bother her.
I wonder the same exact thing. No wonder so many younger men want to date cougars.
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