My girlfriend for 3 years is starting to play games. She' use to love me so much. She'd beg for me to stay if I suggested breaking up, that's how much she cared. I use to never treat her like I should've but now I treat her so good and bring her out all the time. Now after the past few months she's been playing games. She'd pick stupid fights and break up for me for liking a picture for example. When we were single she was liking one of her ex boyfriends picture (they dated for like a week, a couple years back) and I found out she sent him dirty pictures. We fixed things up and today I caught her texting him an I asked to see and she hid it from me. I told her we can fix things out if she was truthful or I can drop her off and be done completely. She chose to be done. Funny thing is that when she broke up with me weeks ago, I'd do the no contact rule and on the 2nd day she would blow up my phone missing me so much. What should I do? She claims she still cares but this stuff happens.
Most Helpful Girl
Don't go back to her.. if you're treating her the way she's supposed to be treated and isn't thankful then forget her. It's hard to find a guy that treats you good and if she's not being faithful and she's playing games then that shows she lost all respect for you and just thinks you're going to come back everytime. You need to show her that's not how it is. Sending pictures is considered cheating and just because you were "broken up" dosnt mean she should be doing that in such a short amount of time. She's confining in him for something you're not giving her, which is not your fault. I was in a similar situation and being done with him was the best decision I've ever made ☺️ You deserve better.0
Most Helpful Guy
I don't expect you to understand right now, because you probably have strong feelings for her, but she doesn't have those feelings for you, and she most probably hasn't for a very long time. You served her these 3 years for whatever reason, but now she wants something else and she's playing games to toss you away. There's no soft way to put it, really.
She's already making sure she has the other guy (ex or whoever it is) safe for her. Once she has him (most probably has him committed to her) you're going to be erased from her mind, just like that. And you'll be removed from the picture. It fucking sucks, but that is female psychology, and that's how girls roll.
See, if you allow yourself to stay with her (which you probably will), for whatever time you have remaining with her, is going to be very toxic. The trust, the "love", and the things you've built (or thought you built) for all these years are irrevocably fucked. She was using you, and will still do if you let her. But, in any case, she will dump your ass pretty quickly and it's going to be over in a blink of an eye.
I won't tell you to just move on, because it doesn't work like that and I understand. I know you cared for her and all, but you need to realize this is going to take a big hit on you, specially if it was your first long term relationship. You have to go through the process of moving on, because she will dump you my friend, at any given moment. When she said she wanted to be done, she meant it. She's just playing and seeing how really malleable you are. There's no winning back, because it doesn't work like that. You can try, for sure, but you will be more frustrated and disappointed.
The other guy who said you already have 3 years of experience is very on point, though. You live and you learn. And now you have a very good picture of how female nature works. Best of luck!3