Ok, so this is what happened. Last week I went on a date with a guy I met on Tinder named Chris. Our date was lovely, he kept complimenting me, we were having a great time, and ended up kissing at the end. We had even planned on going out for a second date later on Friday, and we texted each other normally in the next day. On Thursday he told me he was sick, we chatted for a while, he tried to sext me but I gently turned the subject of the conversation, and at the end of the night he told me he was going to sleep and would text me on Friday morning. We didn't talk on Friday, neither on Saturday until I sent him a message Saturday night, to ask him if he was feeling better. Then he told me he was still sick, and just after I told him "hope you feel better" he blocked me! I realized that during our date I said some things that maybe made him feel a little pressured, but it was never intentionally. And we talked about this issue later. He told me that he wanted to see me again but he was feeling a lot of pressure because I told him that I never had a boyfriend. So I told him that I didn't want him to feel pressured because we were just getting to know each other and the only reason I wanted to go out with him again was because I enjoyed his company and enjoyed the way he was treating me. So I don't get why he vanished two days later, there wasn't any reason to do that at all! I was not putting any pressure on his shoulders! What do you guys think?
Most Helpful Guy
I was seeing this Jewish girl. We had a fantastic first date. Very sexually charged first date. At the end of the date, she was acting all shy and asked, "So, are you going to call me again? I mean, you'd have to be crazy not to." And I was totally going to call her again.
So... why didn't I? Well, the answer is simple. It's because I met someone else. And like, compared to this Greek girl, this Jewish girl had like no chance. I know we all root for the underdog, but like, I'm just doing what's best for me. That's how life is. And that's why I never called her back.
Another time that happened, my friends tried to set me up with this Croatian girl (similar to meeting people online, I had no idea what she looked like, never met her before, etc.). So, we went out, and right off the bat, I wasn't attracted to her. On top of that, she wasn't sexually interesting or exciting at all, and she was fucking useless in terms of where her life was going. But, I didn't want to be rude. So, I do what guys do best... I faked it. We had a great time, she ended up liking me and asking her friends about me, she ended up calling and e-mailing me... and I was like a fucking peasant holding up the rolls of garlic so Dracula would go away. I was like, as diplomatically as possible, LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE DO YOU NOT GET THE HINT B*TCH?
So, my advice to you is, stop beating yourself over it and wondering what you may have done wrong or what you might have said that made him feel XY&Z way. It may very well have absolutely nothing to do with you. Maybe he just met someone else and just forgot about you. Don't take it personally, and just move on. Don't waste time and energy dwelling on what you never had to begin with. Move on to more productive uses of your time and energy.1
Most Helpful Girl
I think he had to do with the sext thing, guys feel sexually rejected by girls when we do that. It also had to do with the fact, that maybe since you've never had a boyfriend, it meant you didn't know what to do sexually (not necessarily sex, but kissing, foreplay etc) and that is the other 50% of building a strong relationship. Don't be too hard on yourself, he probably didn't want to be that guy that used you, and left you. He thought you were one of the good girls.1