>Been hooking up with a girl hanging out almost every other day for the past 3 months
>She doesn't know I'm moving to university in the Fall. I think she is under the assumption I'm still going to be here at the local community college next semester.
>She knows we aren't 'dating' because I made my intentions clear from the start but it seems a little more than just a fuck buddy at this point.
>I want to keep her around as a friends with benefits while I'm in my hometown for summers and breaks
>Don't want to offend her by treating her like a piece of meat saying "yeah I just want to fuck you when I'm in town" but at the same time I don't want her to think we are trying to get in some LDR shit.
I mean I just want to keep it simple and fun like it already is when I come back on a breaks.. but I think she has some feels. I'm terrible at discussing anything like this with women because if she starts crying or showing emotion I fucking freeze up. Srs no idea how to react when that happens.
Most Helpful Girl
Honestly, be truthful! Lay it all out. She knows you two aren't together, and it sounds like you have made it clear that this is just a friends with benefits type situation. So I would run it by her. Let her know that you enjoy how things have been so far, but that you are going to university in the fall. But that you would enjoy hanging out when you are in town. See how she feels about that.
Keep in mind that it is totally her call if that situation is not okay with her. But at least you are giving her all the details so she can make that decision.
If she starts crying and getting upset, then clearly the situation has evolved to more than just a friends with benefits and perhaps having her on call as an occasional friends with benefits is not going to work. We can't always get what we want, so maybe it's best to let her go if that is how this plays out.
But she may very well be okay with the situation. Good luck!
Most Helpful Guy
Best thing is to be truthful, tell her the truth but do it in a way that is as respectful and as polite as possible, that's honestly the best advice I can give because that's what I'd do in your situation. Maybe leave out the benefits part of the conversation out lol.
As for the whole crying part uh yeah if that happens just comfort her, hug her, and let her know you just want to be friends. You really should do something about the whole freezing up when a gal cries thing man, that's not a good habitat.1