I used to want a relationship but learned early on it's not going to happen for me. While my friends and peers were navigating many relationships I couldn't figure out why I was having a hard time. People described me as nice, sweet, caring, etc, overall a great person to be with. Why didn't anyone want me? It used to haunt me. Then one day, the guy I liked admitted he was only talking to me because he thought my friend wouldn't be interested. I stopped giving a shit. I turned 20, still didn't have luck in the guy department and I was tired of being the 3rd wheel. I threw all that sad waiting shit out the window.
I was waiting to have sex; I lost it to a guy I casually messed around with the second day I met him and I never looked back. Since then I've been with six more guys, ranging from 25 to 30 and I just fool around with others. I don't ever date because I'm not waiting around on anyone to ask me out anymore, but just fooling around until we get tired of each other. I've stepped up my fashion game. My confidence is skyrocketing. I don't care what anyone thinks. My mom instilled in me I don't need any man and shouldn't be worried about them. I've becone so independent and I don't let anyone do anything for me.
Guys I used to be attracted to now want to get to know me and I love rejecting them. I've gotten to the point where I don't care about relationships or dating. I don't plan on looking for a relationship. If I ever feel I want someone again, I'll wait until I'm in my late 20s, when I'm done with school and I hopefully am supporting myself completely and I don't need anyone.
My family and friends are growing concerned. They think I'm shutting out people and opportunities and I'm wasting my time. Honestly this is the happiest I've ever been, not waiting on some guy to finally want to get to know me. I just wanted to hear some other thoughts. Let me know if something wasn't clear and I'll post an update with more details.
Most Helpful Guy
What is good about your post is where you mentioned that " you don't care" so that you I don't care attitude, and honestly that's a good attitude to have, it's good that you are confident within yourself and independent as well, these are very good qualities to have.
It's good that you don't really need a man, or someone in your life to make you happy. In that case, you can just live your life, concentrate on making a good career.1
Most Helpful Girl
Ure AWESOME. I don't have ANY luck in the relationship department neither. In the looks department I'd say I'm an 8 or 9 based off others responses to my looks and not including the insecure men and women that hate. I upped my fashion makeup hair and confidence, and I don't tolerate being used for sex not unless I can use them. Otherwise we don't have nothing to discuss. I use to feel disgusted when I was being used for sex and sometimes rejected (like they cared nothing about getting to know me). Now I feel good and strong since I've tooken out sex, and only fuck when I feel like with a guy I find interesting and not boring or guarded. I don't care for relationships or men period tbh 😂0
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