Say you two are at least on the level of good acquaintances, maybe even friends, and you hung out one or two times already. He kept asking you out, but eventually you started telling him you were busy and would give excuses. You don't offer free days/times on your own, maybe because you think it's the guy's duty to do so.
The guy gives up and tells you to call him when you're free if you want to hang out.
Girls, if you were truly busy those times, would you eventually call him? At least to keep in contact? About how often, say, in a span of three-four months?
If you were just giving him the brush off, would you not contact him again and expect him not to contact you again?
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In a guy's shoes, towards a girl that has done that (Oh god.. time and time again!)... I wouldn't contact her. So how would I expect her to contact me? I wouldn't.
The problem there is that if you're focusing all your effort to get in touch and make plans, yet they haven't shown that effort back until you start moving on; then your basically gonna receive a response out of a fear-factor of you moving on. Typically, when people are scared they respond more frequently than when they are comfortable.. For instance: A product that's on sale... If it says "limited time only", even though you know that "limited time only" is gonna last for a few years, you are subconsciously going to want to buy it MORE than the product that's the same without that literature.
At this point... move on, the scare tactic you sent her of "Get in touch when you're ready (I'm done trying to get your attention)" isn't fair to her or yourself... Infact, it could risk you jumping into an emotionally dramatic relationship..No... don't do that... Wait for the right girl and pursue her instead.
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