Okay. First of all I realise that question sounds ignorant but let me explain. I am a girl in my late teens. I have a new boyfriend and understand that I genuinely really really like him, probably more then he likes me. I want nothing more then to stay with him and only him. The problem is whenever I'm slightly drunk I can't help wanting to kiss other guys. It's happened about 3 times now, one of which he knows about. He told me if it were to ever happen again he would never speak to me again and I can't think of anything worse. I know I sound like a prick because yes I have technically cheated 3 times and some of ye probably think if I've done it three times then surely I just don't want to be in a relationship but I really do, i have no doubt in my mind about that. Every morning I wake up and I feel beyond guilty and so mad at myself and I tell myself over and over again it Will never happen again... It does. How do I stop myself from doing this? Please don't say to stop drinking because realistically at my age and where I live and everything that's just not going to happen. But I'll take any advice anyone has please, I don't want to do it again, I'm scared I'll ruin everything. Or even if anyone has any idea why I do this
Most Helpful Guy
First of all you're a bad fucking person and selfish for not telling your boyfriend and you deserve to feel bad.
Secondly even if you are drunk, that's absolutely not an excuse. You can still control yourself even if you really would want to kiss someone else you are intentionally choosing to ignore your boyfriend and just do what you feel like doing, that is why you shouldn't be in a relationship if you "can't" even resist kissing other guys.
The reason you cheat is because you allow yourself to cheat and you make excuses for yourself, you say that "you can't help it" as if you have zero control over your actions. You'd have to drink yourself pretty much black out drunk to get to the point where you truly have no idea what you're doing.
I'm sure you want to be in a relationship but stop being selfish for one fucking second and try to look it from his perspective, he deserves better than a girlfriend who cheats on him 3 times and doesn't even tell him. This really is disgusting.5
Most Helpful Girl
It's funny how people can remember their phone password, where they live but not that they have a boyfriend/girlfriend.. :o
If drinking is the problem here, you should cut it off. If you really don't want to skip that drink, you don't have to, but just don't over do it. You don't have to get wasted. But I don't really think drinking is the problem, I'd say you might just like the attention from other guys, the attention you get from your boyfriend might not "be enough" for you , if that's the case you should work on building up your self esteem. The other reason might be that you're simply not in love with him, it just feels good to be in a relationship..1