Ok so I matched with this dude on tinder and he sounded pretty cool. I already made it clear for him that hooking up isn t going to happen from the beginning.
Anw he wanted to see me tonight for coffee.
In the end I bailed out and he was pretty annoyed and got pretty rude.
Then he asked if I can see him tomorrow morning I told him he s too damn impatient then he snapped 😕
He became even more offensive and started insulting me them he told me to let him. now when I can see him if not tomorrow then let me tell him what othee day I can.
Now I don t understand why I am still curious to see him knowing it won t go nowhere.
I didn t check before submitting 😅
Most Helpful Guy
Because even he was a bit of an ass, the reason for being an ass is because of you... in particular because he wants to see you
Its the whole premise of how good guys lose and assholes win... cause he may be an ass, but nevertheless he is paying attention to you and can be capable of being nice. That also lowers your power vs a guy that gives you nothing but nice. It gives you something to work towards. A challenge. And once the asshole treats you well you will feel a justification of feeling special or like you made progress. With is all very self satisfying
See the whole asshole vs good guy runs on targeting self accomplishment and triggering the reward center of a human. We feel self accomplished when we turned him into a nice guy and we feel rewarded when bad turns to good. Also that little give and take, the slight cold and hot can be intriguing. Its not always fun to have a guy do everything for you without resisting somewhat
*of course i dont mean super bad lol but just enough to grab your attention3
Most Helpful Girl
Wow sounds kinda assholish to me. I wouldn't contact him back if I were you. But maybe you're still curious about him because you're attracted to him and that's understandable.1