My ex boyfriend and I broke up 3 months ago, as we were fighting non-stop. I went to see a therapist to work on my anger.. He left his computer, tv, clothes etc at my place still & he refuses to pick them up, and still has a photo of us on fb. It was my bday a few days ago, and he messaged me to meet up. He took me for lunch and he talked about how he wants to take me on a road trip this weekend, that he will quit smoking for me, the plans of him moving back in etc. Anyways we hooked up & he slept over, he offered to drive me to work, but instead I started to talk about our relationship, he told me he wants to take things slow, and said "STOP", but I got angry and continued. He stormed out of my place, and told me that I came on too strong... I accused him of using me for sex, and he has been ignoring me for days now. IS he just playing me or was he actually interested in getting back together?
You sound like you have anger issues. When you have already broken up, the remains of the relationship are very fragile. He said he wanted to "take things slow" probably to figure out a way to resolve your differences and fix things.
The reason why he wanted to take things "slow" is because when you become hot-headed, things will spiral out of control into arguments and he will probably also lose the ability to think rationally. Then you two just end up on a shit-throwing contest at each other.
Considering the fragile state of your broken relationship, I question why you would get angry at him again. I would think you would show some restraint and control your anger. If there was any hope of resolution, you probably just threw it out the window, as you confirmed to him that you are not a good match with him.
I had a relation in the past i was acting about the same way with my girlfriend. there was no stuff i was keeping at her place but the thing is that i was not able to assume i was attracted and pleased by her. She was little chubby and at that time i had bad friends around me to which i was giving too much importance to their opinions. They were telling me she was not good for me, too fat, well, everything that was not thier business since, when i was with her, i was just fine. we had great sex, great cuddles, great time when going out. I would jusd had nedded some help of someone out there telling me it was great i had this girl with me to have confidence into myself having her at my side for real i mean.
I know know i did some wrong to her, but it was all against my will.
Sad but it's life.
I don't know if that could be the same thing there. Sometimes, our friends and family have bad influence towards our relations and sometimes we don't realize that the first thing we should tell those people is to shut it up.
Now i don't mind what other thinks of girls i get attracted to. I just go with my own feelings :-)
Sounds like he's actually interested if he promises to do all that for you. Not only that, he refuses to pick his things up from your house so I'm sure that's because he wants to/plan on getting back together with you and feels no need to take it back just to bring them back to your place if you guys ever do get together. It might've been too much for him if you're discussing about relationship right after. Maybe he just needs time.
He is obviously using you in order to hook up with you.