On Friday I finally asked my crush to go out with me. We're already friends, we've been hanging out for about 4 months now. She said yes, but we haven't agreed on a time or date yet. However, I don't really have any experience, there aren't that many girls I find that attractive, so this is the first time I've ever asked anybody to go out with me. She's really special to me, so I want to make sure everything goes smoothly. I've been told by an inside source that she would like to go out with me because she is looking for a serious relationship and thinks I would be an ideal partner (I don't go looking for one night stands or picking up girls at bars), so I think there must be some attraction between us.
I sent her a message yesterday morning letting her know of which days are best for me, and if she could reply likewise. She hasn't replied yet. Girls, if a guy sends you a message asking when would you like to go out, and you like him, would you tend to reply ASAP, or wait a little to build tension or whatever?
I was planning on taking her to a seafood restaurant for dinner, and then maybe taking a walk and going for ice cream. I know she likes both seafood and ice cream, but I'm wondering, is this too boring and unoriginal for a first date or is it about right?
Also, how can I show her I really like her without being too intense? I don't want to be too reserved as then the date will be like we're having dinner as we have done many times, just without all our other mutual friends. I think I need to show her some level of affection, but I don't really know what is about the right level. Kissing is probably too much, but is it OK to cuddle up at the end of your first date? I was thinking of maybe trying to hold hands, as this is very gentle and not threatening, but a friend told me this is a big no-no as it's something only done in an established relationship. Any thoughts on this would be most appreciated.
Thanks for any replies, I really need some help with this.
Most Helpful Girl
You mentioned that she hasn't responded back, maybe she is just making sure when would be a perfect time to set the meet up. You shouldn't worry too much. (I usually respond back within the day if I like the guy)
First dates are usually very casual. If you already know her, then you have an idea of what she enjoys or likes doing. So plan something that is enjoyable for the BOTH of you. That way, its guaranteed to be a great adventure.
As for your question on holding hands and kissing... I recommend paying attention to her body language. If she is interested, she'd give direct eye contact. If she wants you to kiss her, she'd look at your lips and then eyes and so on. Pay attention to her body language and just act natural. Remember to stay relaxed and be yourself.
Good luck on your first date!!! :)1
Most Helpful Guy
I think you're overthinking some of the aspects a little too much. Nothing is too boring if you aren't a boring person to be around. Restaurant and dinner are a nice bet, me personally though... I would leave that to a second date, but it's completely up to you. First date I usually make it something simple in the evening, get some takeaway then go to a nice place like the beach or something and watch the sunset.. That's my kind of thing if I know the girl, if I don't know her it's just a simple coffee. Restaurant dinners would usually be my idea of a second date as they're a little more full on.
As far as other things go, let the conversation flow.. Don't be in your head and listen to her, insert humor every now and then.. It's just natural you should be fine. I didn't have a clue when I first went out, but it just happened naturally like a first kiss. Don't try and hold hands, it will seem forced.. Everything needs to feel natural and not forced. For example, if in my case if we were at the beach we would sit close to each other, moments of high emotion are the best time to touch, like laughter... if you're both laughing you can just put your arm around her while you laugh.. as if you're just caught up in the emotion.. It should feel natural and if she's into you she'll reciprocate.
Try not to worry about things and you'll be all fine.1