We were talking with one of my boyfriends friends and talking about how he needed to find a girl and out of nowhere my boyfriend says "hey she's got a friend named Carli and dude she's SEXY" I felt so put down and hurt that he would say this in front of me. I didn't cause a scene because his friend was there but it really made me feel weird about him and disrespected. Girls and guys should I feel so bad about this?
Are you freaking serious? Lol come on! Be real. It's a good thing you didn't create a scene cause you would have looked like a crazy bitch. Seriously, a fight about that would be enough for any guy to reconsider being with you. If you go crazy for such a small thing then you must go crazy all the time for other equally banal things. Your jealousy is up there. You need to realize that you are not the only girl in the world and that they don't suddenly stop being sexy just cause your boyfriend is with you.
Wow! Have mouth insert foot here! I'd have been like WTF? He should have been more sensitive. I imagine he's just trying to talk up another girl for the sole purpose of helping his friend. I'd rather hear him say she's really nice or has a great personality but to get the friends interest in her, maybe he needed to use guy talk.(devils advocate) It would've been smarter to keep that "sexy" part out in your presence. I think you should ask his real views on your friend Carli or the next time you are all together with her it may get awkward. hopefully he can dig his way out of this.
If he said it in front of you it means even less then it would in casual conversation. Guys don't say that in front of there girlfriends if it did mean anything. He was probably just trying to say "agree to it she looks nice".
It's just how boys talk to other boys. I suppose a persuasive way to tell his mate that one of your friends is single and calling her sexy is a good start for him. I dont think he disrespected u in any way. If he had suggested you go with his friend "here take her" kinda way.. then this would be disrespectful. Don't take it to heart girl. He wouldn't be with you if you weren't sexier. Trust me.
No, you shouldn't. He was trying to talk up a girl so his friend would be interested. It had NOTHING to do with you.
Sorry he did not think about your feelings there. Perhaps have a word with him in private about how that hurt you and ask for him to maybe be a bit more sensitive toward your feelings. Don't do it in argumentative way, just let him know you are hurt.
Yeah I think it's just common courtesy to not like that in front of your partner. Neither me or my boyfriend do it and agree it's disrespectful and pointless. Some shit you keep to yourself or your friends.
Nah it makes sense that you'd get upset. Thing is "sexy" is too indicative of her sex-appeal, I think in your presence he should have said she was "cute" or "good looking", kind of neutral adjectives that simply describe her looks.
He's with you because he wants to be with you! That doesn't turn the other 4 billion girls on the planet into trolls. He can think you are hot, and still be aware of the fact that you aren't the only hot one.
"Put down", "hurt" and "disrespected" are not things you should feel, because its not like he called you ugly and your friend hot. He just said she was hot. However it is a little inappropriate for him to be saying that about your friend to someone else whilst you're sat there next to him. Tell him he shouldn't of done that, or at least shouldn't of used the word "sexy" because it basically made you feel insecure. Though don't be surprised if he bites back and tells you to stop being so insecure because to be honest, he CAN say when others are attractive.
For him being your boyfriend doesn't change the fact that your friend is sexy and maybe he didn't say for himself but for his friend like for example he wanted to recognize your friend with his friend or sth like that maybe
Personally I don't think he did anything wrong as he was stating his opinion. And if your friend is one of the sexy people (some people are) then he was just stating a fact. That said if it bothers you, just calmly tell him that it does.