A controlling person doesn't just try and decide for you what to do and not, the result of that and the actual controlling is the person actually manipulating your emotions. When you start to seriously criticize, mock or plain deny people their right to freely chose and express themselves, that is controlling. I had a very controlling girl friend once. This is an example of how it would go down: She said I had to watch this show she liked, and I absolutely hated it, and told her I really didn't like it. Then she would get REALLY pissed, and stopped talking to me for a few days. Similar things happened too. She wanted to decide things for me, I didn't "obey" and she started "punishing" me by removing her presence from me, as she knew I really depended on her. It sounds dumb, but it really offended me that she would misuse my trust and thought she had power over me. I'm still friends with her, but she has less influence in my life now XD
it can be physical (use of physical threat and force), verbal (vocal power, dominerring), or manipulative in nature (manipulate emotionally to control anothe rperson.
bottom line, it is about meeting their needs, not helping you to achieve your greatest life. A person may contribute to your life by controlling so you don't get hurt, but ultimately must let you live your life.
Depends on how much they are attempting to limit my freedom and how they express their concerns. There is a difference between "It really hurts me when you do xyz, and I would appreciate it if you could do it less" and making demands in a loud, agressive tone.
When they need to know everything about you every second of the day. When they look at your texts and demand your social media password. When they don't let you hang out with the opposite sex just because they're "worried". It's not worry it's possessiveness. there's a difference between asking if she's going to be safe with a guy who looks like a bad character and not allowing her to have friends because of jealousy. I think that once you infract someones privacy or try to determine what or who they see it's gotten to a harmful level, however some control freaks are more subtle in their manipulation.