I'm fucking terrible at this. Been doing a lot of independent personal training and I'm texting with clients throughout the day and they are generally my priority. Between friends on social media, text msgs, and my clients it can get overwhelming to just have a conversation with everyone. People will get butthurt that I never respond to their text in an appropriate time.. girls especially get butthurt about it and take as if I don't want to talk to them at all. Even on here I usually just chill on the live feed and don't really even open msgs on this site because half of them are creepy af.
Actually currently dealing with feeling slight anxiety and a little annoyance about not hearing back from my potential fuck buddy since 7am this morning.
Anxious because I asked if he'd drive down to me the next time we hooked up and my ass has been ghosted like three times now so I'm just assuming the worst by his silence.
Like keep checking to see that we're still matched on tinder and everything.
He's so attractive I don't wanna find a different fuck buddy 😭
but generally nah, I know people are busy.
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Tbh dude I reckon it's rude. No one is truly busy to not be able to reply at all. As in within a day at most.
Also if you're texting on a messenger app where clearly people can see you marked their message as read AND possibly were even online a few minutes ago (i. e. texting someone else) that's pretty hurtful.
Canu help me on a question pls? It's about women being less innocent and more responsive text wise to guys who care about them less?
No, it doesn't actually bother me at all because I'm the same way.
Literally, if someone doesn't answer me I assume A) They haven't realized I've texted them, B) They're busy C) They just overlooked it, or D) They had other things to do more important than answering me right away. Which oddly enough doesn't get me butt hurt.
It only bothers me if it says seen on the messages and he doesn't respond. Otherwise I don't really care because I barely respond to people unless they're my best friends. 😅 But if my best friends do it to me I go jokingly bat shit cray at them telling them "bitch I see you, don't ignore me 🙂🔪" 😂😂😂
lmao. Some dude got mad because I took 10 hours to respond. That's like lightening fast for me. He FREAKED out and send like 3 follow up messages.
Can relate to the struggle of keeping up.
I talk to so many people consistently, that I don't *usually* notice when someone disappears for a few days. Even one disappeared for over a week. He apologized to me with some excuse. My first thought was "Dude, I didn't even notice you were gone..".
I wouldn't be offended or freak out if I know the reason why and I feel like the conversation is flowing. Now if I feel like I'm having to pull teeth just to keep the conversation going. Then I will start to assume he's not that interested to keep talking.
Yeah actually I do. This is a problem I have. The guy I'm seeing is like you.. he's an independent contractor and gets a LOT of texts from clients/potential clients. He's really bad at responding quickly and we argue about that more than just about anything.
No. I tend to keep busy, so I'll respond when I can. I expect people to do the same. I see that they read my kik message though, and not respond until the next day. It's whatever, they do what they want to do.
I've had guys spam me if I didn't respond within the hour. It wasn't anything urgent, and I even let them know I was working, or had an appointment. Some people are just impatient and some want attention. Maybe they're just in their own head too much, or bored.
Hah no not if its friends or I know the person I'm dating/talking to is busy.
However, the last relationship I was in, the guy texted me every 6 hours for the last 3 days. It made me paranoid cause I was assuming he was guna break up with me... Which I was right. So I'd suggest letting the person you're dating know what you're doing and why you won't be responding. Girls tend to always think the worst because the worst does happen- and it's better to prepare for that.
It only annoys me because I feel like he's not that interested in talking to me. Like, once in a while during a conversation is ok, but if I'm always waiting 15 minutes or more for a message, that's annoying.