I fall under that stereotype. I was always overweight. My personality honestly was my best asset and it still is. I treat everyone accordingly. Now that I've lost weight. I've been told I gotten better looking. And my personality hasn't changed. Unfortunately I'll I attract now is men who are not my type whatsoever. Even though I have dated them and given them a chance. The chemistry Is not there. One guy said the reason I attract these guys is because I have low standards. As in I've never been full of myself and even now that I've lost weight. In still the same old me. Can this be why I keep attracting the same guy?
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I can appreciate your predicament, however the best advice I can give you, is to change your perspective a little. This doesn't mean you need to change who you are, in the sense that it sounds to me like you are a good person and very kind. What I am suggesting, is you are needing a little something more than what you have been getting in your dating relationships. Quite frankly even before you lost the weight, you were still wanting for more. This is not unreasonable, in the sense that it is a good thing that you want a more balanced sort of relationship, where your wants and needs are met too. To this end, if you feel that those same sorts of guys are not meeting your needs, learn to say no a little more. You don't have to be mean spirited about it, but you want a man who will value you for you and cherish what you have to offer. Raise your sights a little and don't settle for the same kinds of guys who let you down in the past. This is the development of a slightly higher standard, and why not you deserve it, you deserved it before, you just didn't feel like it so much because of your weight fears. Remember even if you put the weight back on (not saying you will) that you deserve more.3