Okay so I have been seeing this guy and the only thing he wants to do when we go out is be in a bathing suit. We have "hooked up" before so he's seen me naked, but i don't like being in front of a lot of people like that. Im confident in my body but I'm also very modest. Plus, a date in my opinion is getting dressed up and going to dinner, for drinks, a park. Something like that.
I keep on having to make up excuses- but should i just tell him the real reason? is it a turn off? And why does he always want to be in a bathing suit? I've never been with someone like that.
I don't have much to work with here so here goes... 1. He's telling you all you need to know about him... You're a piece of meat. 2. How many times did you guys do something other than have sex? (movies, laser tag, go carting... etc.) 3. You should tell him the straight up truth... 4. How long have you been dating?
I think you should play it off and "say whats up with you always wanting me in a bathing suit, its kinda creepy". Laugh after that, let him answer and see what he says. Ts way it docent seem to intense all of a sudden. Maybe you can redirect the conversation and tell him that it makes feel like uncomfortable and he makes you feel more like an object than a lady. Good luck love
I'd talk to him about the "why" and maybe make a deal that on occasions you'll wear a bathing suit for him but not for every date. It should not be you who always have to do the effort. Tell him which sorts of dates you love and than it's his turn to do an effort :D
Apparently he gets excited by seeing your body, but indeed you need the proper clothes for every occasion. OK for swimming suit at the pool, the beach or at home. And yes, I think you should tell him that also like dinner, a walk, ... and that you are more than a sex object.