Okay, so I've been talking to this guy for like a month, and we met on this stupid app. whatever. Anyway, he wants to meet for lunch on Tuesday, and I agreed to it. I'm not nervous and I don't feel unsafe, but I am curious if anyone else has met someone in person that they met online for the first time and what it's like. I feel like it's going to be SO awkward. And I don't even know what to talk about on a date, but I guess that's another issue. If anyone has any advice or tips, I would appreciate it so much. I'm awkward with guys in general, but I am expecting nothing but the worst for meeting someone in person the first time. ugh. OK thank you in advance, you all rock
Most Helpful Guy
I know some people like to have a phone conversation before meeting someone in person because that gives you an idea of whether conversation is going to be really awkward or if the person sounds really odd.
I think the best advice on what to talk about is actually ask about things you are curious to know and things you care about. A first date is a chance to get to know someone and for them to get to know you to see if you both are compatible.
One of the easiest tips about conversation is to not ask too many questions in an interview like format. You want to have some dialogue between questions so it is not like an interrogation and they get to learn more about you.
Even if someone doesn't reply in kind by asking you the same question (for example "what do you do for work" and they simply answer and not ask what you do), simply comment about their answer any thoughts you have which may lead off to another conversation topic or you can talk about what you do for work as if they had asked you.
Remember it takes 2 people to have a good conversation. If either person fails to engage in the conversation well, the conversation is not going to flow naturally.1
Most Helpful Girl
i met my boyfriend online 2 years ago and, on the day of our date, those exact same thoughts went through my head.
-what if our witty online banter doesn't translate into real time?
-what if i'm not skinny/pretty/insert adjective here enough?
-what's my escape plan, if things don't go well?
but all of that went out the window as soon as he walked through the door of the coffee shop we'd agreed to meet at, a month after we'd first started chatting online. we spent 12 hours just roaming the city together~ lunch, the bookstore, kissing in the park... it was magical, and we've been inseparable ever since. :)
the best advice i can give you is to just be yourself. and, if he can't appreciate what you have to offer, then it says a lot more about him that it does about you.1