ok so I went with this guy for coffee then on the way back he tried to kiss me and I turned it down lol. so do you people usually kiss on a first date? do you think he ll still be interested if I blew him off like that? I wasn t ready for a make out session XD
I often did but it was more baby-steps, a bit more natural. It didn't feel like I had to initiate much since we were already kind of shoulder-to-shoulder, playfully touching each other, talking intimately. To me making a bold move to initiate a kiss is kind of risky and something I very rarely ever did.
>> do you think he ll still be interested if I blew him off like that?
He might be a little bit warded off. Depends on the guy and his persistence and how he read into that. If he starts thinking you're not interested in him because of it, he might move on. If you still like him maybe you can kind of make it clear you're still interested to maximize the odds of continuing subsequent dates.
If the date goes REALLY well enough then yeah, I can see people kissing on the first date. On the exact same note though, if it just went okay, well, or you weren't feeling it yet (or suspected you wouldn't ever) then I don't blame a single soul for not wanting to kiss on the first date.
Honestly it's hard to say, it depends on how fragile his ego is and how exactly you turned him down, whether it was rude, emasculating, etc.
Did you give him the cheek? Did he lean in to kiss you and you turned your face so your lips were pointed away? With just a few exceptions I've usually gone in for a kiss on a first date. Only received the cheek once or twice. You see the guy, apart from the fact that he really does WANT to kiss you, has to be thinking this way: What will she think if I DON'T go for a kiss? It's a conundrum. But I can't blame the guy for wanting to kiss you.
It's hard to say it say it really depends on the mood and chemistry. If you've been setting or something 😏 Then a kiss on the first date isn't unreasonable. However if you turned him down you were not ready so don't feel bad or awkward about it. Kissing has to be spontaneous.
Just tell him, if you can, that you're feeling a little sorry for having turned down the kiss but that you found it too early. If you nevertheless still feel you'd like to meet him, tell him. He may think he lost every chance :o so if that's not the case he needs to know :D
It depends on the how the date's been going. When you turned him down, where you tender about it or blunt? If blunt, that's not good. And did you know the guy prior to the date or was this the first time y'all ever really talked/hanged out. Honestly, if I was on a date with a girl I didn't really know and when I went in for a kiss good night and she pulled back, I'd probably just assume she wasn't that interested in me so I'd just move on to the next girl.