Just a simple question
Most Helpful Girl
Whoever pays should not be gender-specific! Those restaurants and other food businesses will take your money anyway.
I'd say whoever is (1) financially capable of paying the meal and is (2) willing to transact the payment should pay.
If both conditions are met, excellent! If one of those two conditions is not met, then one shouldn't transact the payment.
If both can pay, they might like to pay for "whatever they have ordered". Now, I think splitting the bill and paying for whatever is ordered are two different things.
Split= equal amount of money for the benefit of both parties
Pay for whatever is ordered= unequal, individualistic
If both can pay, that's better.
Your question is an "either-or" one and it would be meaningless if respondents would answer by a yes or a no. That's why I did not vote on the poll.2
Most Helpful Guy
If it is an initial date or the relationship is fairly new keep the money out of it. Pay your own way. That way nobody will feel like they "owe" the other something or have expectations because the other person paid for a meal. Once the relationship develops into something more real then it is OK to offer to pay or help pay. DO NOT make money an issue. If you do you will regret it.
by the way... I had a woman on a dating site tell me that she sees online dating as free food. She only dates guys for the free meal. I will not pay for any of the initial date's expense and my dating profiles say the initial date is dutch (we pay for our own).1