Listen, I'm a shy girl but once I actually get to talk to you I'm a fun person! I know for a fact I'm not pretty. Anyways, I'm 23 and I've never had a boyfriend. I know it's sad, but I just don't understand. I mean, I have some guys go out of their ways to talk to me and they flirt sometimes, but that's it. When I look for guys their not around. Yet when I least expect it they come around. Yes, it's nice but once I develop a crush... usually nothing comes from it. Then after guys that 'seem' to take interest in me, I slightly hold back because I'm sure nothing will come from it 'cause that's always what it's been like for me. So why bother getting my hopes high when I know I'll just get hurt or just a girl they talk to. I guess it's fun to flirt when their bored. I don't know anymore. Lately, I've given up on the whole boyfriend thing cuz I just don't think it'll happen. There's this one boy in particular that I want to like, but I'm sure he's not even flirting with me because he's way out of my league. I just hate the feeling of getting my hope up just to have it taken away from me, y'know. What do I do? And what's wrong with me?
Most Helpful Guy
Have a little (actually far, far) more faith in you and get the job done once you start it. Don't dump someone because you lose hope. Have a good attitude and it shall be only a matter of time before you get ur boyfriend. The only thing wrong with you is your fear of failure. But it's not a life test, just fun flirting so take it easy, relax. Experiment. If someone treats you bad or pushes you away it's a jerk. "It" will happen unless you give up. "he's way out of my league" Oh really? Do you mind proving yourself wrong? Cmon be a daring girl, guys like it, as far as you're not becoming a rushing bulldozer of course. Go ahead. Your sweet shy personality is something many people, men too, tend to like (I like that). It's not just about good looks and fancy cars, you know? Plus you can always work on your looks, work out, have a healthy lifestyle, light make up if u need it and so and so on. Give yourself the right to try. Don't hope, just try, try, try, experiment, have fun, and put aside your stress. Be free ;)2
Most Helpful Girl
Well you mentioned you're shy and you have some self-esteem issues such as thinking that you're ugly. Maybe if you changed your outlook about yourself, you wouldn't have an issue in dating.1