Is it that bad dating someone you're not very attracted too?

I'm dating a somewhat nerdy guy with mild-moderate acne that I'm not too physically attracted to. I don't love him but like him a lot and feel safe around him.

The reason I'm dating him is because he's unlikely to cheat, would suck at telling a lie, I don't hear too much NO and I get to decide where we're going out most of the times. For years ever since I was a kid, I've been trying to avoid the replica of my father who was a serial cheater and abusive towards my mother. I'd rather drown than let a boyfriend or husband ever control me and I'm looking out for myself.

Updates:
3mo Don't get me wrong. I'm not living off him. I'm in my 1st year of college and my major is business management. I just feel I'm safe with him in a relationship.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • I don't think it's bad dating a person you're not attracted too the level of understanding can really be beneficial

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What Guys Said 5

  • When I first started dating my ex, I wasn't really attracted to her physically, she had acne problems and wasn't really the standard of pretty. But I liked her personality and who she was, she was a great girl. As the time went on she became more pretty, I loved her with all of my heart.

    The point is, looks change, what really matters is personality. Sadly as her looks changed so did she...

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    • 3mo

      If he changes his personality for the worse, I'll dump him.

  • But is he that hideous? If you love him, that's all that matter, we are all the same inside, and looks fade

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    • 3mo

      He's not ugly but maybe if he lost a couple Ibs and got something for his acne issues, maybe he'll be more attractive.

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    • 3mo

      Talk to him about it, but don't be too straightforward, you can say something like: " Would you like to start crossfit/cardio routines to be a more healthy couple? "

    • 3mo

      Thanks

  • That depends on mutual expectations, of course. Leading the other on or not.

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    • 3mo

      Ok. Though I have to admit that if he's the only option and I feel safe with him, I'll stay with him.

  • Yes, why waste you and the other person time

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    • 3mo

      He's my safe option and I'll be less likely to undergo what my mother did.

  • I wager that you will dump the nerd and get with a bad boy who cheats on you and abuses you.

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    • 3mo

      Didn't you read my sentence? I hate someone that shows any signs of wanting to control me. I hate my father and will spit on his grave when he dies. I would be happy the day he dies.

      I'm the dominant one in the relationship. That's what I vowed as a child as it should be.

    • 3mo

      You have daddy issues. I repeat: You will be the cum-slut for some wannabe thug within 2 years.

What Girls Said 1

  • if you like him then it is ok

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