Having this debate with a friend, basically, if you were in a long term relationship with someone and finally having sex, and when they took of their clothes they were way less attractive than you thought, would that make you lose interest completely, or would you not see it like that because you loved them?
I think it CAN be a deal breaker, I need to be physically attracted to them to, however these things are easily changeable, you can't change someones garbage personality but you can their body if they want to (gym), so aslong as I wasn't shocked and disgusted it would be ok.
This is why I move on if they don't put out after a month. It really sucks when you waste 6 months or more only for disappointment. I really feel sorry for those that wait until marriage and then have to make do with a lemon if annulment is out of the question.
i have been in a long term relationship where this was an issue (6 years) it actually started to bug me and i didn't wana really have sex with her much.. we lasted on the strength of our love alone and she was an amazing person and still is... i just had to leave her due to a couple issues and no sexual attraction.