Scenario: lady and I are acquaintances, I asked her out and she said no. But she's strongly indicated she'd like to be friends, even though I certainly wouldn't call us friends before I asked her out.
Now my first instinct is to just respect her wishes and drop it, accept the friendship - she rejected the date, and her feelings aren't going to change.
Alternatively, I do wonder if perhaps she would want to get to know me a bit better before going on a date; likes to be 'hard to get' etc. Also when I saw 'continue to pursue' I don't mean pestering her, simply whether I should just forget about romance totally, or should I put it on the backburner for now but keep it as a possibility.
- Be friends, try for romance again in the future39% (14)16% (5)28% (19)Vote
- Drop the romance, just accept friendship61% (22)84% (27)72% (49)Vote
Most Helpful Girl
You can keep telling yourself that she's going to be a good friend to you but honestly it's going to hurt you more than it will ever hurt her. Your hardon for her isn't ever going to go away. Meanwhile you'll be subconsciously bypassing other women secretly hoping things between you develop. Don't waste your time bruh.2
Most Helpful Guy
There's no need for friendship. You asked her out because A). You were interested in a romantic way or B). You wanted to fuck. If she's not a friend of a friend or Co-worker there's no need to be friends. Soon enough she'll be telling you stories about the guys she's sleeping with and all that fun stuff your not getting. Granted she seems like a girl you say you want to get to know but did you really pursue her to just be friends? If you answered yes to thst then you answered your own question yourself already.2