I dated thus guy for 5months and I fell in love with him. He did evertything for me and last month told me that he fell in love with me. But now he ended it because he's 'not ready' for a relationship and because everything is moving too fast. He blocked me everywhere and yesterday posted a picture on instagram with another girl, which he knows I don't like. How can he just fall out of love, simply because he isn't ready? Love doesn't just fade away over night.. and take into consideration that he truly did (does?) care for me. Thanks :)
Many Toms Today get what I Always refer to a s"Cold Duck Feet" when things are Seemingly Going way too fast and Suddenly... Not such a Blast. They then Distance themselves, maybe even Disappear into the Murky waters from which They have come from and Then... He blocked me everywhere. I find that the Guy you had Been with for '5 months,' Got more than Duck Feet but Dick Feet in this Defeat. However, from now On... Buyer Beware here, dear. Don't be so Quick to Wear your Heart at First on your Sleeve, Should he Leave. let this Little Lesson in Love and in Life be one that you will Learn By and cry by. Good luck and Hoping you Feel better Soon.. You deserve Better. xx
He cares for you but something scared him. He might have been hurt by a past lover or someone said something to him to really scare him. He cares for you but right now his fear is overriding his feelings for you. I guess just hang on until he opens up and tells you or after a bit give up on him if he won't talk with you.
Some guys feel that girls will never genuinely like them so when feelings start to creep up they'll admit it, but at the same time they'll start backing away. The thing is that these guys are the good guys that most of us girls just used for our benefit and simply ignored and this reallllyyy changes them possibly into even fuck boys.. so as it goes on when they do meet the girl that does treasure them it makes them go into a panic mode, like is this girl going to hurt me like the rest? oh man I've fallen for her already though.. so what they tend to do is back away as soon as they can and in that process to make themselves feel secure and good they'll tap the next thing they find in order to make them feel more secure about themselves and not be freaked out since they dont have any feelings involved in this new thing. Hope what i said helps you understand.. and p. s. the love hasn't faded away he's put it aside because he's scared. I suggest dont pursue him, let him be, when he realises what he's lost he'll come back, and if he doesn't well you have that option to take things from this experience to your next possible serious relationship.
There is a major difference between love and falling in love. He is just being honest and he knowsthat going by feelings instead of using your head will lead you into trouble. He was in love you but doesn't know if he loves you as a person. Falling in love is immaturity , because when one gets bored with the relationship and no longer feels attracted to you , they fall out of love. Love doesn't work that way. Real love is action and not so much of words and an emotion. Therefore he did the right thing by breaking up with you. Because had he stayed with you, he would be leading you on because he doesn't even love you in a deeper level, and that would have been worse.
He didn't end anything because he "wasn't ready." He ended it because the other girl entered the picture. I find too many people hide behind that excuse and 99% of the time it is just that; a lame excuse used by one party to escape or the other party to not be as hurt by the first party leaving.
He still loves you, I would think. He is probably just scared by how hard he was falling for you, or how deep the feelings were that he was developing. A guy once confessed to me that it was a matter of feeling like he was losing control. He couldn't cope with the idea of possibly someday being run by his emotions, so he bolted. :/ Your situation could be something similar?
I think he likes u... he isn't ready for commitment... if we truly love someone a small thing like commitment issues we can change it... that is love... being with the person we love is more important that commitment issues... I guess he just liked u n before it went to the point of love he wanted to leave so that he doesn't hurt either of u too much... i think u should either move on or just give it time... I was in a similar situation too recently n when I moved on he realised that he was gonna lose me n then nowadays when we speak he is talking about family n kids so he could change... u just need to give the right trigger.. best of luck :)
I just shared an opinion about a similar question haha. But maybe he just lost interest :/ I used to use the saaame kind of excuses like: i don't feel I'm ready for a relationship, I want to focus on me, etc ( which were actually true). Sometimes it happens! 😞