So I'm going to start by saying women do the same many times. Now, having said that I'll credit the 80/20 rule. If you've never heard if it before it basically says we only ever get 80% of what we want, normally, so when we see the other 20% we feel like we have to have it. But the thing is it's not until after we get it that we realize we just lost the other 80% and, of course, by then it's usually to late.
I fully agree with you! Our loved ones are far too precious. Even when people make faults, we should not throw the door on their nose :o I'm someone who will sit back at such moments, let de emotion go away and than talk, talk talk until (some level of) confidence comes back :D It will depend on how bed the fault was but dropping people is something I rarely do.