Me and a guy I'm seeing have sex regularly, almost every night. We cuddle, have long kissing sessions. and watch TV together. We haven't gone out to dinner or on a proper date. We laugh a lot and talk about personal things. Last night I asked him if we were friends with benefits but he says no, we are more than that. We don't go out because he gets home at 10:00 at night I think. Even on his days off we just chill at his place. If I am just a friends with benefits and I walk away would that make him take me more seriously?
Most Helpful Guy
You are a side girl. Let me break it down. Most girls go for guys who have multiple women interested in them.
What happens is these guys have multiple girlfriend as i would say. You get his spare time and get to fuck him and then he oes to another girl. of course being seen in public with you might fuck up his plates (girls he are seeing on rotation) so he can't go out with you in public and you are regulated to:
Hence, why we have such an imbalance in dating world where so many men are without girlfriend yet somehow majority of girls all seem to have boyfriend.
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Most Helpful Girl
Yes. Walk away.
You are in between relationship and friends with benefits.
He likes you more than just friends with benefits but he doesn't see you as girlfriend material.
He doesn't need to work on a relationship with you he doesn't need a label necessary while you giving him enough attention and sex.
Been there done that.
I was having exactly same relationship you having now with my ex after we broke up.
I was sick of him playing this 'we not friends with benefits but I'm too busy with my life now' bullshit.
Obviously when a guy is having sex with you yet he hasn't labeled you as his girlfriend that means he doesn't have a respect for you he doesn't see you that way or he just doesn't want to deal with relationship/commitment whatsoever. Do you really want a guy like that?
I left my ex. I realized I deserve better guy than his shit and I was so sick of him bullshittjng me.
My ex keeps calling me even till this day saying he 'deeply' loves me, he wants to work on things and all bullshit he has to say. If he sincerely loved me that's not how he does we all know that better. And same goes with your guy. If he respected you and if he's the 'right guy' he doesn't treat you like this. You should have been his girlfriend already he should take you out to nice dinner or do something outside bedroom together, do some date-activities. Nobody is too busy for a relationship. Even busy doctors and lawyers manage their time to take out their ladies. Leave him.
My advice is, after you leave him he comes back begging you he wants you back (most likely he's still not going to ask you to be his girlfriend and instead, he will say he's too busy for a relationship but he likes you very much, he wants to see how things go with you first, all bullshits.) don't take him. He already is mistreating you what can you possible expect out of this. Maybe he will play boyfriend for awhile but he will go back to where he used to be. I'm telling you been there done that not worth it. You deserve way better than his shit.1