So, currently, I'm dating someone. He's really nice, but due to certain circumstances in my life right now, we may not be able to work out because I may have to quit my job and move back in with my parents. Why? Well, I have bi-polar disorder and it's getting in the way of my job. I don't want to quit. However, the guy I'm seeing knows I most likely will be done with my job in the next couple of weeks. The problem is that he doesn't know what illness I have. He knows I was on medical leave last year from March until the beginning of the current school year, but he doesn't know it's bi-polar disorder. We've only been seeing each other for a month, talking for a couple months, but I never told him what the specific name of the illness was. He doesn't even know it's a mental disorder. He just knows it's not fatal and it can't be contracted.
He wants to know what it is because he said if he can't handle it, he wants to know if he should get out. However, I don't like feeling pressured to reveal something about myself to anyone, especially if I'm in the process of getting treated for it and only learning how to handle it. Plus, I just find it embarrassing all around that I'm 26 and am about to possibly ruin my career over something I can't control at the moment.
So when should he know? Or if you were dating someone with a mental illness, when would you want them to tell you?
Most Helpful Guy
Are you by any chance a blonde working for the government and fighting against terrorism?
I think he should know before you get into a serious relationship.6
Most Helpful Girl
Girl I hear you on this one. I suffer from trichtotillomania as well as a mild form of military sexual trauma. I get that those are very different than bipolar disorder but still. It's tough because I'm always afraid that if I don't do my makeup right he's going to notice that I have eyebrows missing and then bolt. I think you should take some time to determine if he's trustworthy. If he is, tell him. His response will tell you the type of guy he is. A jackass will either bolt or assume you're crazy in the bedroom (let this one go. You don't need them), but a decent guy will be a bit more sensitive. The right guy will stay with you no matter what.0