This is something I've seen circling around this website and a few times IRL.
People will refer to someone who has been very heartbroken, or someone with a kid or someone's who's been divorced or even someone who has experienced trauma, as damaged goods. Rotten fruit. Something spoiled. No value left.
While I understand not wanting to date people due to certain factors you personally find very unfavorable or that you can't handle (someone who's experienced extreme abuse or someone with a child) I do not understand referring to them as something unwhole, something less than, something with no value.
Just because you don't want someone doesn't mean no one does or no one should...
but anyway my question remains. Do you see people this way?
- Yes I do, I see everyone as either damaged goods or not17%(3)28%(17)Vote33%(14)
- No I never see anyone that way50%(9)44%(27)Vote42%(18)
- I rarely do33%(6)28%(17)Vote25%(11)
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I am really turned off by those qualities and think they lose value as potential romantic partners for ME but I cringe when people use the phrase "damaged goods". It is an unnecessarily rude way to express being turned off.1