I wouldn't date her because that shows me that she doesn't like me for how I look. She only likes me for my personality or talents/skills. I want her to like me for everything (personality, looks, skills etc). In my opinion liking someone only for non physical things such as personality, doesn't count as attraction.
Guys, would you date a woman that didn't find you attractive at first but after knowing you she suddenly finds you attractive?
What Girls Said 7
I honestly get what you're saying. Personally, if I knew my partner wasn't physically attracted to me, my self esteem would kind of drop. Its like, well, what are you dating me for? OBVIOUSLY you'll find someone else out there who you are both physically and mentally attracted to. Why is this person settling on me when they dont even care for the physical aspect? Personality saves the day of course, but if there's no physical attraction that reeks of future dead bedroom.
Of course, its different if someone sees personality FIRST, then the other parts of attraction comes for ALL of you. Personality can actually make someone more physically attractive, but I dont know. People always want to think they are not that shallow, but their actions and dating habits prove otherwise more often than not.1
When women say they need to form an emotional attachment to you guys in order to fall for you, men say that bogus and we just only go for looks. But then when you actually see a woman start to fall for you after getting to know your personality first, you say you wouldn't date her because she doesn't go after you for your looks.
Can't have it both ways.0
I was like that to my husband, i didn't havw feelings for him like that, and i only thought he was cute. But now were married, im more in love with him then ever. And i do see him more handsome than before. Although i see other guys that are attractive, i can't ever love them like how i love my husband. And they aren't more than him. Anyways, its better to fall in love with personalities, than looks. Looks wouldn't last long and you'll eventually lose it. However, personality last a lifetime. My husband fell pretty much for my looks only and now he already seemed bored of me.1
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You are just so self obsessed. And you sound stupid. If she doesn't like your looks, its not her problem. And if she at first found you unattractive, and fell in love with ur personality and talents, thats very good. Whats the problem? Now she likes your looks too. So?1
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tbh, looks are not everything. so be happy she likes you for you cos that's you, not your body. your body rots away eventually but it's the soul/personality that remains.2
What Guys Said 17
I kind of have that problem in reverse. I became close friends with a girl and over time I came to like her because of her personality strength of character and inner beauty.
That is why I came to like her but don't get me wrong she is not ugly at all she is a lovely 7-10. When we met I just friend zoned her because I did not think that she was my type. Now that I know she is beautiful inside and out she is way more attractive. Though now I need to try and get out of her friendzone some how.1
Well, i don't no. No i'll get frustrated and i don't even try more to know each other better unless i love her too much.1
I don't think that a woman who didn't find me attractive at first would date me. If I were you I would just forget her.1
Most likely not, especially with the "knowing you" part. To me there's something else you have that she wants that's easy to see. It just so happens to be wealth/money most of the time1
Nope. It's also the reason why I have a month only waiting period when meeting a woman (and I'm being kind). If we are not having sex after a month I have either failed with my game or she doesn't find me attractive.1
Happens to me all the time.1
I guess it sorta depends on the situation and the woman1
Sure, as long as she finds me attractive. I would be more worried if she was only attracted to my extreme wealth. Fortunately I do not have that problem.1
You mean like Marge Simpson, yeah I'd do her.2
Hmm I would like it if she found me attract from the start, and I've had that with all my previous girlfriends. So I would say no, I couldn't really settle for that... Unless I'd been with her a long time, and then I found out...0
Yes , I have caught feelings for an average looking girl before when I got to know her1
oh yeah. and make her sure she will acquire taste to me to the point she gets addicted0
My ego will say she was just playing0
I'm the same way honestly1