Guys how long do you usually wait when seeing someone until you bring up whether or not you want a relationship with that person?
I've been seeing someone for almost four months. We've agreed that we are exclusive but he's not asked me to be his girlfriend. It sounds daft and I hate to get hung up on a label but I've never been with someone this long without them asking and I am starting to wonder if he wants to stay single and keep his options open.
I know a lot of you will tell me to just ask him because that's the grown up thing to do but I'm a big insecure narcissistic mess and I don't want to have to be the one to bring it up.
So, gentlemen, how long do you wait usually?
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the "exclusive" non-relationship in my experience means precisely that-SEXUALLY exclusive while still hanging out in the field. Ended a relationship over this just recently because after SHE declared us "exclusive" ("I don't want you touching any other girls like this, let's be exclusive") she about 4 days later gave me an "just so we're clear, I"m single" speech... I called her out on what I saw as a mutual exclusivity... She decided to end it over it... which was strange/silly as I was open to either thing, just not "both" when both is impossible in my mind unless... they mean YOU are exclusive while THEY are single lol..
But immediately met a girl after where feelings were mutual, no head games, no guessing games, no mismatch... no bullshit. So the first one did me a favor by being indecisive... I would confront (in a soft way) and ask... "are you my boyfriend? am I your girlfriend? what do you want us to be?" and you'll have your answer from his.0