I ask this question because I've been doing some thinking lately. I'm a couple months removed from my first relationship and now that the hurt is less I've been doing more thinking about what I could have done different. Being in a relationship for the first time was an absolutely amazing feeling. I loved being with her, holding her, kissing her etc and never wanted it to end. As much fun as it was though, I will admit that I felt overwhelmed at times and wasn't quite sure if I was doing everything "right". Well with hindsight 20/20 I've identified some things that I could have done better and will do better in future relationships.
My situation just got me wondering, are first relationships ever really supposed to work out or are they more for the first timers benefit to make their future relationship (s) as good as they can be? Please share your opinions and maybe even your experiences. Did your first relationship work out and lead to a very committed relationship/marriage or did it not work out so great and instead you took some things from it that helped you with future relationships?
- They can definitely work out and be successfulVote A
- They are more of a learning experienceVote B
Most Helpful Girl
while first relationships can last, it's definitely not the case for 99 percent of people.
did mine work out? nope.
am i grateful for it? you betcha.
every relationship i've been in has taught me something about myself that has made me a better person or helped me to figure out what i did/n't want in a life partner. all of those relationships led me to the one i'm in now, and i've never been happier.0
Most Helpful Guy
Relationships are a learning experience, and 99.999% of the time they do not (and should not) work out in the long term.
Your first relationships are about learning how relationships work, learning what you want or don't want, like or don't like, how to have fights and disagreements and get over them, how to communicate with each other, etc.
Use the good and the bad experiences from your early relationships to prepare you for when you meet the RIGHT partner further down the road.
It's totally unrealistic to expect your first (or even second) relationship to be the one that lasts a lifetime (or even just a few years)0
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