I just want to know if this is OK. Should these two people have a sexual relationship or just date? What would be better? Should they wait until the teen is 18? Is it frowned upon more if the adult was male Vs female and the teenager was female Vs male? Lastly, the adult (female) doesn't want anything serious. The teenager (male) is very mature and takes care of himself. His mom is an uninvolved parent. What would happen if these two love birds keep hanging out with mutual friends and alone (seldomly)? The group dynamic is great!! PS: They knew each other for awhile... but suddenly the attraction is incredible!! :'( Help me...
1mo I'm deleting this ASAP. I didn't think anyone would understand. I have to be honest with him... eventually and just tell him it's wrong!! I like him as a person. Who knows. Maybe when I'm 30 and he's 25 it WILL BE WAY DIFFERENT! Fuck off.
Okay first of relax you know just as well as we all do that eighteen is the safest age. Now if you feel that the attraction is big enough and it was mutual I'd say way the risk and at that point if you still feel the attachment and attraction is valid then make a move. I'm sure he'll be more than happy about it and honestly you've bin circling round it back and forth for a while. Do understand this though he is young still and so are you attraction especially at his age followed by sex often means he will be wanting commitment of some sort most likely in way of a relationship. Be aware of that fact and if you feel that you wouldn't mind it then move on it. I feel as long as some form of dating process is attempted then you would be just fine.
Its legal (and because of the fact that its a guy who is that young you won't have any issues unlike if the genders where reversed). I would say is up to you and him, now if you don't want something serious and he does then I think the right thing for you to do would be to say no and explain your reasons, if your both wanting the same thing then it might be worth giving a try its a bit of an age gap but quite frankly at 17 your old enough to know what your getting into so I don't think its exactly wrong just a bit odd. Just see how it goes I guess tell him what your looking for etc and see how he reacts.
I don't like the options. You are not doing anything wrong, both legally and morally.
Ignore the people below. Do what you want.
Firstly, the age of consent isn't 18 it's 16 so you could date or have sex with the person. There is no issue.
Secondly, looking at it from a moral perspective, it's down to you but I don't see any issue. I'm from the U. K. With the age of consent being 16, and 17 year olds date people up to 28. That's a bit extreme but point is it's not for anyone to decide.
So if he's 18 he can join the military and kill people, but he can't have sex with someone he likes when he's 17? Makes no sense.
Just go out or have sex with the kid if you want to. Not if the people below are telling you. There's nothing you are doing wrong.
He's a not a boy, you said he's above age so he's and adult know.
That's weird. Especially being you want nothing serious. You can go to the bar but this kid can't even buy cigarettes. What kind of friends do you have that are in there 20s and choose to hang out with kids thst age?
Yes its ok for them to date. But if you're the 22 one then i think you shouldn't date him, cause he's still young and immature. You would rather want a man not a boy. But if he's the one whos 22, just be careful around him too, and i suggest you not to rush into sex. Not until you two have dated long enough for you to trust him. Cause if you rush into it, you never know if he was just using you for sex or not.
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