I just need to understand what is going on in this guy's head. We've been seeing each other for a little over a month, to an extent that I thought we would be exclusive. But I guess I scared him away, and he started to withdraw. I just thought maybe he needed space/time? Was sad, but I thought if he really liked me he would stick around anyways (right?)
After the withdrawal (ie. hours to reply to my texts, and avoided seeing me), he completely disappeared. I did not text him, I played it cool and tried to move on with my life for a few days. Until, he texted me - asking me how I was I doing. I decided to reply his text 6 hours later (contemplated on what I wanted with him - cut him off completely, or maintain good relations), to which I said I'm good and asked him back on how he was doing. 24 hours later, still no reply.
This is just bugging me - I know it really depends on the person, but I just don't understand what he wants and why he is doing this to me. Granted that we were "nothing", but I really liked the guy and hoped for some explanation. Any ideas or thoughts on why he is doing this, and how to deal with it (aside from having my own life // moving on)? I really want to straighten things out with him, if there is no future, but I don't know - is it even possible to end something that haven't even started?
I don't want to sound desperate/clingy to him, even though I probably already giving out that impression here - so if any of you have any suggestions/tips/thoughts, it is greatly appreciated.
Most Helpful Guy
I dont know. He seems like he's either scared of commitment for some reason or he's trying to play a game here. Most likely the first option. He probably likes you but has problems with where this is going. Best advice right now? Dont seem eager about it at all. Dont go after him. Let him do it all. See how far he goes from his confort zone to see you again (beware: he might not come back).0
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Most Helpful Girl
If you don't like where this is going, just end it. Don't beat around the bush. He was the one that is holding back from you. I bet that you didn't do anything. It's him. Whatever problem he has, he is the one that will have to deal with it. There was no excuse for what he did. Tell him that.0