My friends often tell me that women who have had bad relationships in the past become closed to love and having families and often become mean and have extremist feminist views. Is it worth dating a girl who has had her heart broken? Or should i leave her to be?
Most Helpful Girl
Whaat? That's a quite pessimistic view. Same could be asked the other way around, "Is it worth dating a man who has had his heart broken by another woman?". If we all stopped dating people who have had their hearts broken, soon no one would be dating. That's part of life, heart ache. It's nearly impossible to find anyone that hasn't gone through it.
Sure it's inadvisable to start dating someone right after they get their heart broken and are still seriously hurting. It's very likely that it wouldn't end well for either of you. But time heals all wounds and after a while people get over the heart ache and are ready to date again. For some people it can be a shorter time period and for others, longer, we all take our time, but time helps us to forget.
If she has had very bad experiences with men, she will probably have her guards up, she needs more time to learn to trust you and she'll be more afraid to start a new relationship, but no matter, she's not a lost case. She's just hurt. What you have to do is be patient, to guide her to the right path and show her not all men are the same.2
Most Helpful Guy
Im trying to date my friend that has had her heart broken. Even I've had my heart broken [was engaged and she left me]. I use to be really pessimistic but her friendship turned that around. You have to be pacient and look at what she wants and figure out how she loves [The Language of Love]. If you feel deep in your gut that she is worth it, then move a mountain and be with her.1