People say women are more insecure. what confuses me is though... despite being insecure most women will seek out the top 10-20% of attractive males to have sex. How do i know this (I don't 100% but I have seen enough proof/other people talk about it to know it is at least somewhat true)? Well there has been lots of information about the whole 80% of women sleep with 20% men statement... but recently i watched something called 'Love Island'. It's a UK show with very attractive people dating etc... the guys on the program (this was like 7-10 of them) chatted about how they have slept with 300-500 different women. It seems a large amount (not all women of course) throw themselves at these men. One of the guys talked about women literally jumping in naked to his bed. Anyways 500 different women? That is crazy... these men were in the top 10% looks and were muscular (some very jacked). One even spoke about sleeping with a mother and then a daughter in the same day...
Lets flip it.. lots of people have talked about/backed up men generally don't approach the best looking girls because they think they are not good enough/won't have a chance. It seems either men are more desperate for sex... but then women enjoy sex more if done right and are equally as 'horny' as men. But then dating/sex as we all know is in the girls court... they practically dictate it. And it seems like they will throw themselves at these top looking jacked dudes and not really have any interest having sex with someone less then that... yet they are insecure? I don't get it...
From my view it seems like girls are insecure about how they look because of what they see in magazines/models... but they will still go out of their way to see if they can pick up the best looking guy (ones that look like models funnily enough)? And if a guy on their level approaches them they will have their barriers up and expect him to woe her completely...
Most Helpful Girl
Ahhh yes... I have *befriended* many of these hundred women men. They are great to look at, but I got to know them and only ended up dating one because of his personality. He was also fat through most of his life, so he wasn't used to all that attention and didn't let it inflate his ego because he knew it wasn't real.
Now why on earth do these women who are so insecure try to get these, what should seem like to an insecure person, unattainable males? You do realize these guys sleep with pretty much anyone who isn't really fat? To quote one of these friends of mine " everyone looks good if you drink enough."
Well these women know that. The hot guy who's an asshole is almost always easier to have sex with, plus it boosts their confidence to know they slept with someone that hot.
The most insecure girl I knew slept with over 100 guys like this. She would call me immediately afterwards, crying. I would ask why do you keep doing this to yourself? The answer is so simple: just don't sleep with these guys? Wait for someone who's not an ass. Her response : I don't know. I can't. They're just so hot. When they pay attention to me, I want them to like me and I know they like that.
It's a sad state of affairs and my heart breaks for these women. They do eventually go for other guys, but in their younger years, everything tells them that is the guy they want.
I was lucky and had confidence, but never, ever went for the hot guy. No matter how hard he tried or said I love you - which I never believed. I knew they were most likely liars or cheaters and I didn't deserve that. Everyone who ever met the guy I dated through high school thought I was joking because he wasn't tall, jacked or hot. To me he was attractive and he was one of the best boyfriends I ever had at this point... But he tried very hard to pursue me.
I think it all boils down to how much you respect and show an effort to care for a girl/woman. If you get the courage to be yourself and show her what's good about yourself and follow through with asking her out, then she will most likely give you a chance. Trying is key. These females won't usually come to you. They don't know if you'd even like them, where with the hot guy, we know we can at least sleep with him. Sometimes, if they're really smooth, women will even think they have a chance afterwards... which usually they don't. False hope gets some women through the day. What can I say? Humans are messed up man.1
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Personally I think it depends on the ma:woman ratio in your city. I'm not a drop dead handsome model and don't have a 14 incher but I have no problem. It all boils down to confidence. Women can be more confident (less insecure) because no matter what there will always be guys wanting them. Men on the other hand, we have to work at it and face it, most of us don't have women throwing themselves at us naked. So ya guys are generally more insecure when it comes to finding bedmates. Looks on the other hand is a different story.1