Girls who are in their mid twenties, do they get teased a lot about not being married or having a boyfriend? Especially if they are Asian? How does this make them feel?
Side Story: I was talking to this girl my age, I liked her and was just making small talk. We were at a festival, and one of the stalls was about marriage luck. Her parents came up and teased her she needed to go there... Right infront of me... I think she was embarrassed because after that she completely stopped talking to me... Even though I tried talking to her again later. She was embarrassed right?
If she was Chinese there is a strong possibility that her parents are traditional and they expect her to be married at a certain given time. Teasing at this point is not funny as its very difficult and never recking for a person who came from a traditional home who's not following traditional standards.
Girls in general do get teased a lot by people who expect them to be married or get married period. Especially if she is considered 'attractive' by a lot of people. If she refuses marriage and a boyfriend overall, she may get shunned. And it can be quite embarrassing. It really doesn't matter where she is from or where she leaves. Tradition will always follow her and bind her to a way of living she doesn't want to live, or can't for the sake that there is nobody she can meet those expectations with. One who won't also stigmatize her as well.
It depends but usually it is done by the parents or their freinds that just got into a relationship with someone, or a busy body freind. They don't like it. Being teased about it is kind of like being teased that your to short or to tall. They can't control it. They just have to find a guy they like and after a while maybe marry him. It is really embarrassing to them especially when they are with a guy that they like. TO them it is like hey you found a guy hurry up and marry him!. Wait a while and try talking to her again.
Ooooh brother!! It annoys me soooo much! My grandma is the worst in this! And now my mom started -_- And this goes to the point were I can't take it and talk back aaaand than we start a fight. Aaand there's also my moms friends and friends of the family... same shit. Ooooh and the talking about grandchildren God help me!! -_- It's sooooo annoying, like sorry all my life don't go around finding a guy and marrying him. Shame on me that that's not my main goal... -_- Shame on me!
My grandma would probably think I'm satanic if I told her I couldn't care less about me not getting married.
But what annoy me the most is that people are so closed minded that they really don't see anything more worth living if not to get married and have kids and die... Like if You don't do that You're a lost, sad, unhappy soul.
Omg this is the reason why i hate family reunions or just meeting relatives and family in General (asian here). The usually questions arise: so, do you have a Bf? If you do: so, when will we get the invitation? If you are married: so, is your belly filled yet? If you are pregnant: so, when are you due? (OK this is normal) if you have a baby: so, when is the second baby coming?
Omg I feel like ripping my hair off just thinking about these end less questions!
My parents often tease me about getting married to my boyfriend, knowing that them talking about it makes me uncomfortable. I don't really get teased by anyone else about it, maybe a few jokes from our best friend but it's nothing too serious.
I'm white and have been getting bothered about how I 'should be looking for someone to marry' for years now. When I was single, as well as now, even though I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years.
Yes!! I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and everyone constantly teases me about marriage and asking when the wedding is. It's annoying because it might get the girls hopes up that one day they will marry that guy but what if something goes wrong or they break up? It's a lot of pressure really.