Let me start off by saying that I'm a college student. There is no way I should feel this confused and torn, but apparently that's just part of being human.
I met this guy over the summer and he's incredibly sweet and funny. Basically, he's amazing and I like him so much. You see, he even has this face, and I want to kiss it. Unfortunately I'm still painfully awkward when it comes to handling guys. This situation has now evolved into something I'm even worse at handling.
We were at a party a while ago and I mentioned to one of my friends there that I liked him. Of course this was a poor decision since we were both drunk, but I did it anyway. As you can probably imagine, she ended up telling him that I liked him. And as if that wasn't enough, she asked him if he was okay with that to which he apparently replied "yes". She tried to sell it to me like that meant he liked me too, but I understand that "liking someone back" and "being okay with someone liking you" are two entirely different things.
Well long story short, I finally found the balls to ask him if we were still okay, since I know it isn't very fun to find out like that and he's still someone I want to be friends with. Obviously this was the wrong question to ask, since it didn't really reveal whether or not he had any feelings for me back.
Logic would typically lead to the conclusion that he would just flat out tell me if he liked me back or not, however this really isn't a logical situation and I know he isn't used to having girls like him (or at least knowing that girls like him). I really don't think he would know what to say or even how to respond regardless of whether or not he likes me back.
Basically, I've fucked up. Any suggestions on how I can un-fuck up? Literally anything would probably be useful at this point.
Most Helpful Guy
First, just for future reference, try to avoid revealing your feelings to your meddling friends or at least tell them not to interfere if you do.
Don't lie about whether you like a guy you're interested in but just tell them it's none of their business. All they tend to do, especially when you can't comfortably own up to the feeling in front of the guy, is elevate the relationship between you to a new level of awkward while attempting to play matchmaker in a very obnoxious way.
For your case, my suggestion is just casually talk to him but not about your feelings and about the previous incident so much. Since your feelings are out there it's not useful to be all awkward about it now or getting serious with him about it.
Make it fun, be easy-going, and you might even casually ask him to hang out some time. I know it's kind of rare for girls to ask a guy out but you're at this stage now where he already knows you like him and it sort of naturally follows to seek a follow-up where you invite him to hang out in a very friendly and easy way (that'll make the rejection less awkward if he does reject your offer).4
Most Helpful Girl
Contact Joe but this Time... Go Slow and just let it all Flow.
Nursing and Nurturing First, a Nice Repore and Friendship is the Trick of the Trade. Jumping Feet First into Murky waters can Be the Death of You and any Potential Relationship, when the Other person on the other end could Grow these Cold Duck Feet and Never want to Come out of the Waves again.
Make light of everything, hun, and let his Actions speak Volumes and Louder than Words right now in Hopefully giving you a Second Chance.
In Finding Love, there is Always a Little Lesson in Life that one Learns, and this is to Try and Learn by your Mistakes as you go Along with the Flow.
Good luck. xx0