What became of it?
Most Helpful Guy
Thirty-five years ago, I liked someone who was married. I knew her husband and I thought he was a fine man. She and I went out after work for a drink once and she kissed me. I knew that we had crossed the line and I told her that it was wrong and we should never do that again. A few months later, I moved away and never saw her again.4
Most Helpful Girl
Yes, I was hanging out and trying to get to know this guy (we met online) and he was very scared to get into a relationship. He had some bad experiences in the past, but said he was ready to move forward if he met the right person.
However, he never made time to get to know me, and stressed that he needed to know me if anything were to come of us. So I became really frustrated trying to get to know him and schedule time to see him, for him to bail.
When he did see me, it was always on his terms. I would watch him play hockey and I would drive 45 minutes to see him play, but we wouldn't spend much time together. I really liked the guy, but I soon realized that I was spending my Friday nights watching him play. Prime dating time, and I didn't feel he was making an effort to get to know me. I always asked questions, and tried to get to know him. But he never asked me anything. I waited for 6-8 months, but realized that I was really unhappy with the situation.
So things didn't work out between us. Which is fine. I was sad for a bit, but I realize it's for the better. I want a guy who is going to want to be with me.
I think if you are in a position where the person isn't ready or able to be in a relationship. It's fine to wait. But set a limit for yourself. Don't wait forever, and don't close yourself off to other people. If you two aren't exclusive or haven't made any promises to be in a relationship, it's fair game to see other people. And you should, because waiting and closing yourself off is only hurting your chances at finding someone.
Why put your dating life on hold for something that may never be? Unless this guy is making an effort to get to know you and develop some type of bond with you (whether that be a friendship, relationship, etc...), then it's not worth waiting. But if he is actively pursuing you, working on his issues or whatever it is that keeps you two from being together. Then it's worth it.