i want a guy who is very intelligent that i can talk with him about the israeli palestinian conflict , or about richard dawkins books or my favorite book "Wuthering Heights". i want him to like traveling and learning new culture like me. i want him to be really chill and care free not jealous at all and (preferably polygamous) and funny and like jazz and rock of the 70's. i want him tall and skinny. white or black i don't care. my friends say that i'm picky but that i should be like this and it's my right.
Israeli palestinian conflict? Welcome to the year 2000s low hanging political fruit. Let me guess, you watch downton abbey and think jane austin is just SOOO the greatest? You're not cultured. You're a chick flick hipster.
Let me give you some perspective. My favorite painter is Adolf Hiremy Hirschl. You've never heard of him. Not many people have. The conversations i have with my friends involve the precession from the estruscan orders to the later doric and ionic, and i have a great many interests in symbolism and the hudson river painters. I've begun developing methods to use deep learning neural nets and FM synthesis to create predictive evolutionary algorithms based on the s&p500, and i want to backpack to Mu Cang Chai in vietnam and visit the top of the tepui plateau in Venezuela, see the view from Mount Roraima.
Does this make me cultured and impressive? of course not. Its just a braggy list of my most obscure and unrelatable interests. I've taken steps to distance myself from people, in an attempt to look superior to them. Lets take a step down to earth.
I like the glitch mob, led zeppelin, and i like the tesla roadster and the avengers movies. And i have a 10000x chance of meeting a girl with an interest in one of these than i do any of the other obscure crap that i project onto her. If she does not know about that, i can teach her, and if she's not interested, she doesn't have to be. We just have to feel comfortable together. Which i guarantee you, is YOUR biggest problem. Because if you can find a man who somehow fits that criteria, he will not be comfortable around you. He may not even like you.
For somebody who really values intelligence I find it a little shocking that your grammar isn't on point. I'm not calling you dumb, I know some people care less about what they post on the internet, but I'm just saying, live up to your standards or people won't take you as seriously.
Now I do think you're being more hyper-specific than picky. You're picking very self-specific interests that is going to be difficult to find in another person unless you really want to just date yourself. All I'm saying is be open minded.
You can find a lot o intelligent guys that like 70's rock, but somebody who is going to enjoy and even be aware of all of your specific interests? That might be difficult. Besides, it's cool getting with people who have at least their own unique interests outside of yours because it opens up more areas for deeper conversation instead of a run around of:
That's a little picky. Given my age and background, I would have been a decent fit, but I am not tall and don't really want to talk about the Middle East. And I know next to nothing about Wutherering Heights other than thete's a guy named Heathcliff and I think it's an Edith Wharton novel.
lol... this is INSANELY specific. Yeah it's too picky. Look, being this selective comes with an inherent understanding that filling these requirements will take time (if not impossible). It's your call but society doesn't wanna' hear you complain when you can't find this one specific guy.
There's nothing at ALL with being as specific as you want. However...
First, most guys your age with have very little to no interest in a lot of that. And second, the note specific your requirements the less potential people you'll meet. So if you're willing to wait and wait and wait for the one that's juuuust right... Then more power to you. :-)
1/ there is no "israel", there is only a fraud, terrorist, occupying state that has stolen and defiled Palestine.
2/ Richard Dawkins is a fallacy using fraud, makes me ashamed to BE an atheist-he's a fucking biologist-that's his expertise, evolution, etc... NOT atheism... he doesn't even GRASP what "agnostic" means, in short, fuck I'd like to punch that guy! decent atheists don't LOWER themselves to Christian standards by using fallacies, I recommend bill nye or lawrence krauss-at least they keep their arguments IN the realm of logic.
3/ did you know "chevy chase" is mentioned in wuthering heights?
you seem to have a lot of minor details about him already picked out , the odds of finding someone perfect aren't that good , maybe you have to meet a guy and get him into the things you find interesting
I feel like being too selective in a potential partner can shut you off to a lot of interesting and lovely people. It's good to have some standards and things in common, but I think you should perhaps broaden your horizons just a bit. You might end up falling in love with someone you wouldn't have expected.
I don't know how on earth you are going to find someone who can discuss controversial topics but also be chill and care free. You are mistaken to think that your partner should have the same interest as you. What makes a good relationship has nothing to do with them liking the same things you do.