[Please don't vote until you've actually read the whole thing]
My theory is this. You take two attractive dudes the "shy" looking shy guy
and the more "confident LOOKING" guy who is also just as shy
The first guy will have easier time than the second because neither of them will EVER ask a girl out cause they're too shy. So they have to wait for girls to ask them out. Many girls will think the first guy likes them and that's he's too shy too approach cause he looks like a shy guy. So confident girls will ask him out themselves. With the second guy even confident girls won't ask him out because they assume he's not shy and if he isn't asking them out it must mean he's not interested in the slightest and thus won't bother because they're certain the guy will reject her. However, internally this guy could very well have the hugest crush on that girl who decided to believe he isn't attracted to her.
What do you think?
(And yes this is me asking girls who do occasionally ask guys out. Don't be afraid to ask out even the non shy looking guys. They are just as capable as being shy as the shyer looking ones. I promise you)
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Most Helpful Girl
I think this is a good theory. I could see what you say as being true.
Are you the confident looking shy guy or the not so confident looking shy guy? Just being nosey...
Either way, I feel for you guys. No matter how society changes, one thing remains constant, women expect men to be the initiator and I do not see that changing anytime soon. :(
But good theory. I think. :)0
Most Helpful Guy
Yes but kind of an odd question to me.
All people have to go by when judging a person, especially one they don't know so well, is outward appearance -- how the person looks, walks, talks, smiles, etc.
If you look confident even though you aren't, then it's going to help. People aren't mind-readers so it's really the impression you give to people that counts.
If the most insecure guy in the world could convince everyone else around him that he doesn't give a damn, then he'll just be as good from an attraction standpoint as an identical twin who is genuinely confident. It's generally difficult for someone who doesn't have any confidence to behave this way though without becoming an obvious act.
Meanwhile even a genuinely confident guy who acts in a way that gives off the perception that he's insecure and is worried about what everyone thinks, even if he doesn't, is not going to be perceived as confident and will not be so well-suited for attracting a large number of females.0
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